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June 28, 2017
The Number One Thing Single Girls Should Look for in a Future Husband (But Rarely Do)

WATCH VLOG Most single girls have a running list of the things they’re hoping for in a future husband. The list often looks something like this: Handsome Athletic Smart Funny Good with people Social Loves to have fun Makes me smile And….oh — is a Christian Goes to Church (at least most of the time) As important as a “handsome face” and “funny personality” may seem to a girl before marriage, these things often take a back seat to something else that becomes MUCH more important. Most Christian married women say that a handsome face and fun personality aren’t the most important things they want in their husband. InFull Post

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June 26, 2017
How to Discover if He’s The One You Should Marry

My boyfriend and I had been pursuing an intentional relationship for quite some time. He was ready to move forward into engagement. I wasn’t so sure. I wanted to make sure I was making the right decision. I’d been in the relationship long enough to have all of the facts in hand. I knew the ins and outs of his personality. I knew his strengths. I knew his weaknesses. I knew his likes and dislikes. I knew his convictions. There was only one thing left for me to figure out. I needed to decide if I wanted to commit to spending the rest of my life with him. QuestionsFull Post

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June 21, 2017
Answering Your Questions About Infatuation, Modesty, and the Future

WATCH VLOG Infatuation, Modesty and The Future are popular topics amongst modern women. How do I avoid becoming obsessed with a guy? How to let go of a guy after I’ve already ended the relationship? Does dressing modestly mean I’m ashamed of my body? How can I remain faithful to God when I don’t know what the future holds? I have a passion to invest in younger women, but I’m not sure where to start? Any ideas? Kristen and Bethany tackle these questions and more. WATCH VLOG

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June 16, 2017
Why I Chose to Save Sex for Marriage

If there’s one thing that will quickly raises eyebrows of curiosity, it’s when I tell people that my husband and I were both virgins on our wedding day. As normal as that seemed to me back when I got married, I’m becoming more aware of how radically counter-cultural this is in today’s society. When people hear that I intentionally and purposely chose to save sex for marriage, their next question is almost always, “why?” Why would I put myself through that? Why would I force myself to wait on something that is so amazing? Why would I deny myself the fun and pleasure that so many other single girlsFull Post

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June 14, 2017
How to Handle a Breakup in a God Honoring Way

WATCH VLOG For those of you who have been through a heartbreak, we can understand. We’ve each been through difficult and extremely painful breakups. If you are willing to follow God, trust in His perfect plan, cling to His Word, pour out your heart to Him, He can use your heartbreak for good as well. In today’s vlog, we share five truths to help you handle your breakup in a God-honoring way. 1. Seek Comfort in the Right Places. 2. Trust in the Lord with all your heart. 3. Surround yourself with godly wisdom. 4. Fill your mind with truth. 5. Choose to Serve Others.   WATCH VLOG

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June 12, 2017
Why Christian Girls Need to Rethink the Flirting Game

I was in sixth grade and knew exactly how to work it. Every girl at church camp liked the same guy and I was determined to get his attention. He was cute. He was popular. I wanted nothing less than for him to like me. I wasn’t interested in a relationship or anything serious (I was only 12 years old) I just liked the way I felt when I captured his attention. I remember the situation like it was yesterday. We were playing knockout (a basketball game) on the camp sports court. I made my shot and then went to lure my prey. I ran over towards him withFull Post

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June 6, 2017
Practical Tips for Embracing Purity in a Romantic Relationship

WATCH VLOG Maintaining purity in a romantic relationship is not an easy thing to do. John and Elizabeth are a newly married couple and remember the early days of their relationship very clearly. They offer practical advice on how to honor God in this area of a relationship. If you are in a relationship, want to be in a relationship, or plan to be one day in the future, this will prepare you to honor God and maintain purity. WATCH VLOG

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June 2, 2017
3 Truths for Building a Future Marriage that Lasts

They were young and in love. Their entire future was ahead of them. Everything seemed magical in their lives and he couldn’t wait to propose to her. He began ring shopping with great excitement and imagined the moment he would slip the diamond onto her finger. Suddenly, without any warning, something drastic changed their lives forever. It was a normal day for this young couple just like any other day. He headed to his car without a clue that this would be the last day he would walk or talk for a very long time. He merged onto the highway like he always did, but this time things wouldn’tFull Post

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May 29, 2017
Guy Answers Questions on Purity, Marriage, Makeup and More

It seems like every girl has questions in the back of her mind that she just wishes she could ask a godly guy. Questions that would give her as close to a “guy’s perspective on life” as she could get. We are so glad to inform you that this post is exactly that! We had the opportunity to have three young ladies brainstorm and come up with a few questions that they would ask a guy, if given the opportunity. Their questions are in bold below. We took those questions and sent them on over to a godly guy and had him answer the questions from his perspective. WeFull Post

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May 22, 2017
Christian Girls Need to Start Talking about God Defined Sexuality

A few months ago, Kristen and I began praying about a theme for our upcoming summer conference. We talked, prayed, talked some more and still came up empty handed. We wanted to host a conference that would meet the greatest needs of the girls who would attend…we just weren’t sure what that was. The two of us agreed that we didn’t want to settle on a topic just because it seemed interesting or exciting. We wanted a topic that would genuinely help and challenge the girls attending. After hours of thinking, we decided to give the brainstorming a break. A few weeks went by and then we met backFull Post

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May 15, 2017
Dealing With the Heartache of a Breakup

I think the hardest part of a breakup is the mornings that follow it. The nights are hard too, but the mornings, I think that’s when the pain is the rawest. When you’ve spent the past 6-8 hours (or 5 if you’re anything like me) sleeping in a blissful state of ignorance, and then you wake up and for the first few seconds everything is fine. And then your brain wakes up and reality comes in, and it hits you hard. Another day of trying to make it through. Another day of trying to move on. I’m writing to you because I’m currently going through a breakup. It’s beenFull Post

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May 8, 2017
Give the Guy a Chance to be a Gentleman

I was a sophomore in high school and had just finished playing in the semi-finals for a big basketball tournament. As my team and I were sitting in the bleachers scouting out our competition, one of the high school guys teams came and sat right behind us. It just so happened that these guys went on to introduce themselves and quickly struck up a conversation. As our conversation with these guys gained speed, my ears quickly tuned into their major language problem. Their English was fine, but their choice of words was filled with profanity and inappropriate comments. Being the outgoing girl on my team, I turned around and lookedFull Post

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May 3, 2017
Why A Husband Isn’t Your Reward for Staying Pure

WATCH VLOG  I’ve heard several girls express similar complaints over the past few months. They sound something like this… “I did everything right. I haven’t had sex. I didn’t date around. I tried to honor God. So what gives? Why didn’t God give me a husband?”  In today’s Vlog, I want to take you through 3 different truths to help you answer that questions. Here are 3 truths to help you gain a Biblical approach to purity:  1. God never guarantees you a husband. Getting married and having a husband is an awesome thing, but it’s not a guarantee. We need to make sure that we don’t add to ScriptureFull Post

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May 1, 2017
Why Purity Begins In the Heart {FREE GIVEAWAY}

Every­ Christian has something to say about purity, be it right or wrong, loose or conservative, broad or specific. Purity is a vital element of our walk with God—and one, it seems, that many are missing. Christian girls are pros at talking the talk and getting on mission trip and youth conference “highs for Jesus,” but when it comes down to making right choices, standing blameless before God, and keeping pure, humble, and full of the fear of the Lord—there’s a discon­nect. Purity is not a ring, a book, or even a commitment, though all of those can be good things! But without actively maintaining our whole selves accordingFull Post

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April 21, 2017
Ditching the Demeaning Mindset that “Girls Rule and Boys Drool”

I used to love beating guys at basketball. Well…I actually loved beating guys at anything. Back in high school, there were two guys who challenged Bethany and me to a game of two-on-two basketball. Ummm. Yes. We were totally up for the challenge. You could smell their pride as we stepped onto the court. This was going to be fun. Lets just say the game didn’t last long. We beat them twenty-one to zip. Bethany and I walked off the court openly smirking. In our minds, we were the bomb. For us, beating guys in basketball was the ultimate “girls are better than boys” proclamation. Back then, my attitude towardsFull Post

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April 19, 2017
6 Things Every Christian Girl Needs to Know Before Getting Married

WATCH VIDEO  The first six months of my marriage were some of the most eye opening months of my life. Prior to getting marriage, I thought being a wife was easy business. I mean…seriously — how hard could it be? As I approached my wedding day, I naively thought I was fully prepared in every way. Reality check! After six months of marriage I realized how utterly unprepared I truly was in certain areas. If I could go back in time, I would definitely give my “single self” some major advice. Looking back now, after 6 years of marriage, there are some specific things I wish I had worked harderFull Post

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April 7, 2017
How to Go From Singleness to Marriage in a God-Honoring Way

I clearly remember the day that I went from being “single” to being in a relationship with Zack. It was so exciting, exhilarating, and strange all at the same time. All of a sudden I had this amazing guy in my life. He wanted to get to know me. I wanted to get to know him. Neither of us knew if our relationship would result in marriage, but we were anxious to find out. After ten long months of intentionally getting to know one another, seeking wisdom, and praying a lot, it became very clear that marriage was the next step for us. Eeeek! We were giddy with excitement!Full Post

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April 5, 2017
Answering Your Questions About Beauty, Romance, and The Christian Life

WATCH VLOG Beauty, Romance, and The Christian Life are popular topics amongst modern women. What if a guy is pressuring me to change myself? How do I know if a guy likes me? What do I do when I feel like God has turned His back on me? What are the dangers in fantasizing? How can I minister as a single girl? How can I be patient in my relationship? Kristen and Bethany tackle these questions and more in today’s vlog. WATCH VLOG

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April 3, 2017
How Important is Attraction in a Romantic Relationship?

His brown eyes and curly brown hair were enough to make me swoon. I loved hanging out at the basketball gym. I loved watching my crush play. In my eyes, this guy was drop dead hotness. I loved everything about him. His hair, his snapback, his eyes, his skills, and the way he wore baggy athletic shorts and a sweaty t-shirt. He was perfect in my eyes. Oh, and did I mention that the two of us had never actually spoken? Yep! That’s right. I was in love (or in like and totally infatuated) with a guy I had never even spoken to. I didn’t know the first thingFull Post

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March 29, 2017
Should Christian Girls Date Non-Christian Guys?

WATCH VLOG The question of whether a Christian should date a non-Christian has been circulating for centuries. Here are a few common questions we’ve received on this topic: “What’s the harm in dating a non-Christian guy?” “What if he’s a highly moral guy, but he’s not a Christian. Is dating okay?” “We love each other and love is bigger than religion, right?” Check out today’s Vlog for five really helpful truths to help you decide if dating a non-Christian is a wise idea. WATCH VLOG

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March 27, 2017
How a Conference on Sex Helped Me in My Singleness

This past weekend I went to a women’s conference at my church. The topic? Sex. Yes, I know I’m single. I know it’s a little weird that I went to a conference talking about something only married women should be doing. I know you’re probably wondering how in the world a conference on sex helped me in my singleness. Although the conference was on sex (something I’ve never done and don’t plan do until I’m married) it was honestly amazing. I wish each and every one of you could have been there with me. The sessions were incredibly tasteful, biblically based, and super practical. Dr. Juli Slattery was soFull Post

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March 8, 2017
How to Think Clearly When You’re Totally Infatuated

WATCH VIDEO  I (Bethany) clearly remember a time in my life when I was totally infatuated with a guy. In my mind, this guy could do no wrong. He was like a modern day William Wallace. After a good two years, the fog lifted and I was finally able to see clearly. It was in those moments of clarity that I finally realized I had been infatuated. I had basically ignored all the wisdom and advice around me because I was so head-over-heals for this guy. My feelings were driving my brain and I wasn’t going to let anything stop me. Infatuation has a way of creeping up onFull Post

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March 1, 2017
Answering Your Questions About God, Guys, and Purity

WATCH VIDEO  God, guys, and purity are popular topics amongst modern single women. How do I study my Bible? How do I talk to other people about God? How do I remain pure before marriage? What do I do with attention from a non-believing guy? Questions like these are regulars in our email inbox. It can be so hard to know how to answer these questions and practically live out biblical truth. In today’s vlog, we tackle these questions and do our best to give you down-to-earth biblical answers. WATCH VIDEO 

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February 22, 2017
How to Be Single and Satisfied at the Same Time

WATCH VIDEO  Bethany understands what it’s like to have an unmet desire. As a single girl herself, she says there are only two ways to handle your desire for marriage. Will you choose the road towards sorrow or satisfaction? Bethany’s learned that living in a state of, “I must have marriage” is awful. She’s decided to instead trust the Lord with her heart and desires. She challenges you to do the same. WATCH VIDEO 

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February 20, 2017
Love Advice From a Couple With 34 Years of Marriage Experience

Today I get to introduce to you a 34-year-old love story. This couple is very special to me because they happen to be my parents. I am so excited to introduce to you to Mike (my dad) and Heidi (my mom). With over 34 years of marriage experience, this amazing couple has been an example of love, faithfulness, and commitment. In a generation that is clueless on how to attain lasting relationships, I can’t wait for you to hear from a couple with a proven resume. Instead of listening to Hollywoods cheap advice, I’m offering you a front row seat into a couple who’s stood the test of time.Full Post

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February 13, 2017
How to Handle Your Desire for a Boyfriend

Annie was twenty-two going on twenty-three, boyfriend-less and struggling to trust in God. She lived in a small town, worked at a small business and went to a small church. Let’s just say the male prospects (or lack of) in town were small as well. The longing in Annie’s heart to finally meet and marry the man of her dreams was becoming overbearing. How could she possibly remain content in life when true love was nowhere on the horizon? Although Annie’s heart longed for a guy, she made the tough decision to give her desires to God and wait patiently on His timing. Annie’s relationship status didn’t change rightFull Post

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February 8, 2017
How to Survive Being Single on Valentine’s Day

WATCH VIDEO  Valentine’s Day often brings a lot of different thoughts and emotions for single girls. With romance floating in the air and stores bursting with dark chocolate and roses, it can be hard not to get down and discouraged. Instead of falling into a “woe is me” mindset, the two of us want to show you how to survive and thrive this special day. WATCH VIDEO 

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January 30, 2017
We Need to Stop Destroying Godly Leadership in Guys

The conference had just begun as I settled into my chair with my warm cup of coffee in hand. I was excited to take a break from the normal routine of life and instead spend the weekend resting and recharging. About ten minutes into the opening session, I noticed a cute young married couple come through the doors. They looked no older than mid-twenties, so I’m guessing they had to be a newly(ish) married couple. What happened next totally took me off guard. As the husband walked in and gestured towards a row for the two of them to sit in, the wife looked at him with a lookFull Post

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January 23, 2017
Falling in Love With Guys That You Don’t Even Know

It was a sunny Friday afternoon, and I had just finished attending a writing conference with a girlfriend of mine. I walked to the parking garage and hopped in my truck. Yikes! The parking garage had been empty when I pulled in early that morning, but it had completely filled up throughout the day. Getting out of a parking garage in a big Texas truck is nearly impossible. As I slowly started to inch my way out, I noticed the driver in the car waiting to take my parking spot was a very attractive looking guy. He had a big smile on his face as he watched me slowlyFull Post

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January 11, 2017
Bethany Answers Personal Questions About Thriving as a Single Girl

WATCH VIDEO  Bethany opens up and answers personal questions about guys, relationships, and being single. As a twenty-eight-year-old single girl, Bethany can relate to the struggles, sorrows, and difficulties that accompany those extra unwanted single years. Although she doesn’t claim to have lived these years out perfectly, she’s learned a few things that have been extremely beneficial to her and she wants to share them with you. WATCH VIDEO 

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December 30, 2016
The Surest Way to Find True Love this Year

“Maybe this will be my year!” she squealed. “Maybe I’ll finally meet the man of my dreams.” The hopes of finding “true love” is on the minds of a lot of single people as the new year rolls around. It was for me when I was single! The anticipation of a new beginning and all that the year might hold is an exciting thing. There’s just something fresh and exhilarating about the unknowns and the what-ifs. Right? If you’re single and hoping to get married, chances are you’ve probably wondered if this is your year too. You’ve probably wondered if Mr. Right is going to finally make his grandFull Post

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December 26, 2016
5 Strategies for Living With Purpose as a Single Girl

Extended years of singleness seems to be a growing trend in our culture, whether we like it or not. Due to a variety of reasons, most young men and women aren’t getting married as soon as they’d like to. As a twenty-eight-year-old single girl myself, I can relate to the struggles, sorrows, and difficulties that accompany those extra unwanted single years. Although I haven’t lived these years out perfectly, I’ve learned a few things that have been extremely beneficial to me during this time. Whether you are single or married these tips will encourage you, or help you encourage the singles you know, to live with intention and purposeFull Post

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November 30, 2016
What to Do When Romance Isn’t a Part of Your Holiday Season

WATCH VIDEO  You hear the music, you see the pictures, you feel the “love in the air” and you just wish you had a man to enjoy it with. But, you don’t. It’s just little old you with your Christmas music and peppermint mocha. You dream of the day when you will have a family of your own and someone to “steal a kiss under the mistletoe” with, but that’s not your current reality. A New Perspective and a Little Bit of Hope  We want to share with you a new perspective and a little bit of hope. We want to encourage you with some nuggets of truth thatFull Post

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November 28, 2016
What Happened to “Till Death Do us Part”?

The bride and groom were beaming with joy as they rushed down the aisle of cheering guests. The cheers grew louder as they stopped mid-line and the groom leaned in for a picture perfect kiss. Within moments their “just married” getaway car zoomed out of the church parking lot leaving the sound of dragging clickety cans to the cheering guests. Fast forward 3 years. The words “for better or for worse” and “till death do us part” have faded into the background. The reality of a tight budget, a screaming one-year-old, and schedules that are packed, began to take a serious toll. The bride and groom had long forgottenFull Post

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November 16, 2016
5 Dangers of a Secret Online Romantic Relationship

WATCH VLOG  They met at a church event. They started messaging and chatting online. Before long, their “innocent” chatter turned into flirting, which quickly turned into more intimate conversations. After several weeks, their online interactions were taking them down sexual roads they never thought they’d go. Stories like this aren’t uncommon.  With so many online chatting programs and social media tools, a girl and guy don’t have to search very hard to engage in a romantic fling. The scariest part about the entire thing is that it can all take place inside the four private walls of our very own bedroom. Why is this so scary? Because a secret romantic relationship canFull Post

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November 14, 2016
3 Reasons Jesus is More Satisfying than Cute Guys

This guy was not necessarily a crush, but I could feel him slowly becoming one. The last time I tried to talk to him we had to go separate ways on our busy college campus, so we didn’t get to finish our conversation. This was going to be different. After class, I noticed that he intentionally got “delayed” so that we could walk out at the same time. “How cute!” I thought to myself. We had a nice conversation as we walked. As usual, we were headed in opposite directions, but this time, we didn’t part ways as quickly. We stopped in the middle of a crowded area andFull Post

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November 4, 2016
Don’t Settle for a Guy Because You Think He’s the Last Option

Feelings of heartbreak, sadness and fear swept over me as I scanned the mountain range. I breathed in the fresh air hoping the great outdoors would do me some good. Life was hard at this moment in time. Like really really hard. I was in my early/mid-twenties and completely distraught over a life changing decision. To move forward in my relationship and get married, or, to end the relationship and enter back into singleness. Deep in my heart, I knew what I had to do. I knew I couldn’t continue the relationship out of fear and/or desperation. I knew I couldn’t get married out of the fear that thisFull Post

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November 1, 2016
6 Ideas on How to Live Your Single Years Well

WATCH VIDEO It’s time for us as single girls to recognize that singleness isn’t a season to “endure” until marriage, but a season to serve God to the best of our ability. Here are 6 ideas on how to live your single years well: 1. Don’t Complain 2. Speak Words of Gratitude 3. Get Outside of Yourself 4. Get the Bigger Picture 5. Surround Yourself With Young and Old 6. Commit to Growing That’s a wrap. Six ideas on how to live your single years well. Which one of the six areas would you like to commit to improving? Share your thoughts in the comments below. WATCH VIDEO 

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October 28, 2016
A Single Girl’s Thoughts on Writing Letters to Your Future Husband

I’ve always been so enamored by the fact that my future husband (if it’s God’s will for me to get married) is living and breathing right now. He is somewhere in this world at this very moment. How crazy is that? Picturing my future husband as a real, living person (and not just an imaginary human) really hit me around the age of fourteen. During this time, God began to convict me in the area of purity and gave me a strong desire to want to honor my future husband. I began praying through convictions and decided to commit to several things: To save sex for marriage. To saveFull Post

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October 7, 2016
The One Thing You Desperately Need in a Future Husband (FREE GIVEAWAY)

The moment his piercing blue eyes glanced in my direction my heart melted into a pile of serious infatuation. This guy was everything I’d ever dreamed of and then some. He was handsome with an extra dose of Hollywood swag. In my mind, I had us happily married and imagined myself as the luckiest girl on planet earth. My entire future happiness and marital bliss were being based off one thing…my physical attraction to “Mr. Hollywood” himself. I knew nothing (literally nothing) about this guy, except for his looks. Long story short, I ended up meeting and getting to know Mr. Hollywood and the two of us developed aFull Post

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September 30, 2016
Is Masturbation Wrong for Christian Girls? (Part 1)

Caution: This topic may not be appropriate for younger audiences. Without being unnecessarily graphic, my hope in writing this two part series is to offer helpful biblical counsel for the many Christian girls who are struggling in this area. It used to be that most blogs and books dealing with sexual sin issues were geared towards men. However, over the past few years many women have opened up about their own sexual sin struggles, expressing a need for help in this area as well. Praise the Lord! We, as women, are not immune to lustful sins any more than men are. Lust is not a guy problem…it’s a humanFull Post

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September 21, 2016
6 Guys You Shouldn’t Date, Court, or Marry

WATCH VIDEO  Over the years, we’ve learned very quickly that there are some Christian guys who would make great husbands, and some who would not. Life is too short to spend it married to someone whose heart isn’t totally turned towards God. There isn’t time to settle for a guy out of hopelessness, desperation or just plain emotional want. Here are the 6 types of guys we personally would never recommend for you to date, court, or marry. WATCH VIDEO 

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September 7, 2016
Why “I Kissed Dating Goodbye” Didn’t Ruin Our Lives

WATCH VLOG  Do you remember the popular relationships book from the 90’s called “I Kissed Dating Goodbye” by Joshua Harris? This book has sold over one million copies since its original release, and has always been a controversial book. However, just more recently, we’ve seen article after article from people saying that this book has totally ruined their lives. One man commented and said, “this book has ruined my marriage and it will never be the same!” Ruined your life? Ruined your marriage?? Those are bold statements. Having read the book ourselves over 15 years ago, and not experienced a ruined life as a result, we thought we’d tackleFull Post

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September 5, 2016
Real Women Know How to Accept an Act of Chivalry

What better place to observe the possibility of chivalry than in a room full of young singles at a Bible study. And that’s exactly where I was. The room was packed to the brim and almost every spare chair had been pulled out and used by the late arrivals. Somehow a young lady had squeezed in unnoticed and ended up without a chair. She quietly made her way to a small ledge and found a way to lean/sit against it. After a few moments, I noticed a kind young man quietly making his way towards her with his chair. He started to pull the chair out and set itFull Post

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August 31, 2016
4 Must Know Truths for Single Girls Desiring Marriage

WATCH VIDEO Calling all the single girls! If you desire to get married some day (whether soon or in the far off future), this vlog was created especially for you. Being single can be hard at times…really hard. Especially if you’re hoping to get married sooner rather than later. In this vlog, we want to share with you 4 powerful truths that will help you live your single years well. These truths helped Kristen during her single years, and they are still helping Bethany as she waits on God’s timing for marriage. If you want to thrive during this season of your life, these 4 truths will help you doFull Post

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August 17, 2016
3 Ways Christian Girls Can Promote Godly Manhood (VIDEO)

WATCH VIDEO  It’s time for you to understand, challenge, and encourage the men God has placed in your life. Are you willing to take a step out on a limb and do what only a handful of girls are doing? Are you willing to stand apart from the average girl and encourage guys to live to a higher standard? WATCH VIDEO 

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August 15, 2016
How Writing a Book about Sex Taught me the Secret to Love

When I took hold of the challenge to write a book about sex, and all the touchy subjects it touches, I had no idea I’d discover the secret to love. Sex illuminates the farthest corners of our hearts. It reveals the pain and the promise, our desire for more of everything we deeply want. Sex is the picture of Christ and His bride — too beautiful to behold — mysteriously expressed between a man and a woman. In marriage, sex is yada — or at least it should be.  Yada is the Hebrew word for “knew,” as in “Adam knew his wife Eve” and she conceived and bore a sonFull Post

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August 5, 2016
Why You Should Love a Guy’s Heart More than His Hairdo

I couldn’t stop looking at him. He was one of my favorite early crushes. This guy was one of my brother’s basketball teammates and I just loved watching him run up and down the court. At 12 years old I was enthralled with him. He put little sparkles in his gel so his hair slightly shimmered as he played basketball. Oh! I thought I was in love! I even secretly gave him the endearing nickname “sparkly.” There was only one problem. “Sparkly” and I had never talked. In fact, I don’t even think he knew I existed. I adored his shimmering hairdo, but had no idea who he reallyFull Post

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July 17, 2016
How to Have God Honoring Friendships With Guys

Looking back on my high school years I realize how little I knew about interacting with guys. I would say, the one word that best described my interaction with young men, would probably be flirting. As a super outgoing, social, extroverted gal, flirting just seemed to be my most natural way of interaction. Some girls feel awkward around guys and run away out of fear, and some, like myself, revert to being overly friendly and flirty. I personally don’t think either option is a good one. Over the years God has convicted my heart in this area and I’ve come a long *long* way in my guy friendships. I’mFull Post

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July 15, 2016
3 Effective Ways to Prepare for Marriage

Have you ever noticed how some married couples seem to display a real, genuine relationship with each other? Being a guy with child­like wonder, I’m naturally curious. Why does he treat her with love, kindness, and care? Why does she respect, honor, and follow him? As single Christian guys and girls, we should be cultivating habits which are crucial for healthy marriages. Here are three effective ways the Lord has shown me to prepare for marriage during these single years. 1. View Marriage In Light of Eternity Many of us will focus on many of the practical details of preparing for an earthly marriage that we often lose sight ofFull Post

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July 13, 2016
Advice for Single Girls on How to Prepare for Marriage

WATCH VIDEO The two of us used to think that getting married would automatically transform us into “princess perfects.” We thought that, somehow, our flaws and sinful hearts would disappear into the background while we loved our husbands selflessly. Riiiight. If you’ve ever thought the same thing, this vlog is for you. Although Kristen has only been married for 5 years, she has learned a lot about marriage and true love and is sharing her insights on today’s vlog. If you’re a single girl in need of some advice on how to prepare for marriage, you’ll love today’s video. WATCH VIDEO

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July 1, 2016
A Single Guy’s Thoughts on Girls, Getting Married, and God

Girls like knowing what guys think. Right? I know I do. Especially when the guy is single, godly, and striving to honor God with his life. Well, I have something extra special for you today. Kristen and I interviewed a young man who is striving to honor God with his life as a single guy. We asked him five different questions and wanted to hear his honest opinion on each topic. The two of us were encouraged and challenged by his answers, and we think you will be too. 1. What are some of the most important qualities you are looking for in a future wife? The first thing thatFull Post

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June 15, 2016
Answering Your Guy Questions: Dating, Bad Relationships, & Guy Friends | Vlog

WATCH VLOG Today – we’ve decided to dedicate this entire vlog to answering your guy questions. We’ve hand picked 3 of the most popular questions we hear from you and have attempted to answer them in this video. What is a good age to start dating? Is it better to be in a struggling relationship than to be single? How can I be “just friends” with guys? These are all great questions! Watch today’s vlog to hear our answers to each one of these questions. WATCH VLOG

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June 13, 2016
God’s Design for Sex is Way Better than Hollywood’s Cheap Imitation

We can’t escape the reality that we live in a highly sexualized American culture. Things are not quite as “behind the scenes” as they used to be. The magazines in the grocery store portray half naked women while billboards display seductive pictures to grab our attention. No matter how sheltered you may feel as a Christian girl, you can’t help but notice the sex-obsessed culture we live in. Every one of us has an opinion on the topic of sex and my question for you today is this: Where does your worldview on sex come from? Is it based on God’s Word, or on what Hollywood teaches? If you don’tFull Post

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May 25, 2016
Is it Okay to Be Obsessed with Guys? | Vlog

We have exciting news to share with you. GirlDefined Ministries is launching an official YouTube Channel today!! We will be posting new Vlogs every Wednesday from now on. If you have a specific topic or subject you’d like us to cover in an upcoming video, just email us HERE.  We hope to use our YouTube channel to reach an even broader audience with the powerful and freeing message of God-defined womanhood. We’d love your help in spreading the word about it! WATCH TODAY’S VLOG 

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May 23, 2016
When Reality Hit Me on My Honeymoon

“Babe, I have a great idea…” Zack said enthusiastically. “I want to plan our entire honeymoon by myself and completely surprise you!” With a shocked face and raised eyebrows, I smiled at my handsome fiance and asked, “Seriously? You want to surprise me and plan our entire honeymoon on your own?” “Yes!” Zack responded confidently. “You don’t have to worry about a thing. I’ve totally got this,” he added with a wink. With four months left until our wedding day, it was honestly a huge relief for me to remove the honeymoon planning from my to-do list. Before I knew it, the time had finally arrived and I foundFull Post

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May 17, 2016
Celebrate! Girl Defined is Here!

We are so excited to announce that Girl Defined: God’s Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity officially launched today!!! Today is a day of celebration. A day to celebrate all that God has done and is going to do. We are in awe of His incredible grace and mercy in our lives and this book is a testimony of His faithfulness. Our prayer is that this book will show you God’s incredible design for the girl and help you see that God defined femininity is an amazing and beautiful thing. We’re inviting you to join us on a liberating journey toward a radically better vision for femininity. OneFull Post

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May 13, 2016
Should Christian Girls Date Non-Christian Guys?

Back in high school, I remember walking out of Walmart and finding a secret “love note” stuck to my windshield. It was from none other than the Walmart parking lot cart guy himself! After weeks of catching him stare at me every time I pulled up, he finally (cleverly) spilled his interest in me. He invited me to join him on a romantic date to Chili’s *ahem* the following Tuesday. Well…long story short, I didn’t go. That marked the beginning and end of my Walmart romance. He seemed like a nice guy and all, I just wasn’t interested in dating around. But the bigger reason I said no wasFull Post

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May 2, 2016
Is It Okay to Date a Guy Who Isn’t a Virgin?

I’ll never forget the day I found out the guy I was in a relationship with was not a virgin. I felt like I’d been punched in the gut. I was so in love with him and never fathomed this would be a part of our future together. After I heard the news, I needed time to process it. I needed time to pray. I needed to search my heart and figure out if this was something I was willing to accept. After a lot of prayer and discussion, I came to the conclusion that I was willing and able to move forward in the relationship. Here are aFull Post

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April 27, 2016
What a Single Guy Taught Me About Marriage

The other day I was hanging out with a group of solid Christian friends. We were chatting about life, catching up, and just having a great time. During our time out together, we had some great conversations about dating, romance, courtship and singleness. We went around in a circle and shared our thoughts on those topics. We answered questions like…Would we date? Court? How are we currently preparing for marriage? Etc. One of the single guys shared something that I found really encouraging and inspiring. I thought I would share it with you gals to encourage you and challenge you as well. In a condensed version, here’s what he said:Full Post

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April 17, 2016
3 Qualities a Guy Must Have Before You Marry Him

Have you ever wondered why some guys “stand-out” as solid Christian men? On the flip side, have you ever wondered why other guys behave as wimps, displaying immature and jerk-like attitudes? I’m a guy. Yes, I’ve seen both. Yes, I’ve experienced the immature behavior myself. Yes, young solid Christian guy leaders do still exist. And yes, they can be hard to spot at times. Understanding Christian guy leadership has burdened me deeply. Christian guy leaders are desperately needed. They’re needed for the church. They’re needed for young godly Christian single girls. They’re needed to raise families. But, most importantly, they’re needed for the Gospel, for Christ’s sake. As aFull Post

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April 15, 2016
10 Signs He’s Not the One for You

Most of you know that I’m married to an amazing guy named Zack. Throughout the course of our 10 month courtship, it became really clear that he was the man for me. There were specific signs I was looking for in his character, actions, words, worldview, and spiritual genuineness that helped me (and my family) determine whether he was “the one” or not. Obviously, Zack did turn out to be the one. All in, Zack had numerous signs of being a godly, mature, and faithful guy. However, not every guy that came into my life prior to Zack passed the test. In fact, there were some guys that hadFull Post

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April 1, 2016
Why Premarital Seduction Always Backfires

She was a missionary’s daughter. He was a missionary’s son. They noticed each other for the first time while serving on the mission field with their families in a remote village. They were both raised in families that loved the gospel. They were both raised in families that loved marriage. As the months stretched on, the missionary’s son decided to pursue this pretty brown-eyed girl. Things took off and both families were excited about the possibility of joining together in marriage. The relationship looked picture perfect from the outside. This couple appeared to be honoring God in their interactions with one another. They appeared to be pure and holyFull Post

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March 29, 2016
How to Find True Joy and Contentment as a Single Girl (Video)

WATCH VIDEO HERE I get it girls. I understand the fear, worry, discontentment and discouragement that can often times accompany our “single status.” I admit that I don’t have this whole “contentment” thing down pat. There are moments where I definitely struggle. I struggle to trust. I struggle to remain joyful. I struggle keep my eyes focused on the One who has the plan. Despite the fact that my desire to get married is currently unfulfilled, I’ve found something that has radically transformed my life. I’ve realized that true joy and contentment isn’t reserved for the super godly or hyper spiritual. True joy and contentment is available for eachFull Post

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March 23, 2016
Official Girl Defined Book Trailer is Here!

WATCH VIDEO HERE. Drumroll please!! We have been waiting for this day for months. We have been praying for this day for years. God has done the miraculous and we are so excited to announce and release this video for you today! Since you’re a special part of the GirlDefined team, we wanted you (our awesome subscribers) to see this video first. Then – after you watch it – we want to personally invite you to join us on an amazing journey! If you’ve ever asked yourself any of these questions, this journey is for you: Am I valuable? Am I beautiful? What’s my purpose as a woman? HowFull Post

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March 9, 2016
4 Reasons You Should Let Him Open Your Door

I married an amazing gentleman who has never failed to be chivalrous in our marriage. Even before Zack and I got married, he always did one little thing that I absolutely adore. He always opened the door. Not just restaurant doors and house doors. He opened (and still does) my car door too. Every time I get in or out of the car, he opens my door for me – regardless of who is driving. Does he need to open my door? No. Am I perfectly capable of opening my own door? Yes. But this little act of chivalry has taught me huge lessons about our God-defined roles asFull Post

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February 29, 2016
The Dangerous Habit of Shopping for Guys

When I was in college I went shopping with some of my best friends every Thursday night. Like you might imagine I was evaluating the size, color, and qualities. The crazy thing is, I never purchased a single thing. In fact, I wasn’t even shopping for clothes, shoes, or accessories. I was shopping for guys. Every Thursday night was my college small group. If there were new guys visiting, I would check them out. If I liked what I saw, I would immediately view them as a “potential.” Over time, I began forming a long list of “options” as I continued to evaluate and shop.   I tried theseFull Post

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February 19, 2016
Why I Didn’t Fall in Love with My Husband

I still remember the moment I laid eyes on him. He was sitting 8 rows in front of me. His strong arms, wavy brown hair, and tall physique caught my attention immediately. I didn’t know who he was or where he came from, but my stomach was churning with butterflies. He was good looking, tall, and attending the same Christian conference I was attending. He had to be a great Christian guy (right??)! We finally met the during the last night of the conference, right after the closing ceremonies. My heart almost leaped out of my chest when I found how close we lived to one another, and howFull Post

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February 17, 2016
Chasing After Something Greater Than Guys

I spotted my target. He was tall, lanky, and had a head full of bushy brown hair. I convinced my sixteen-year-old self that he was drop-dead gorgeous (in a manly sort of way, of course). There was a major problem, though. My best friend thought he was gorgeous, too. Uh-oh. Girl fight! Besties crushing on the same guy is never a good thing. After talking about our crush, my friend and I decided to have a competition. Neither of us had actually met this guy—we’d only stared and admired—and we wanted to change that. We decided that whoever had the most guts to meet him and get to knowFull Post

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February 12, 2016
A Single Guy’s Perspective on Valentine’s Day

With Valentine’s Day quickly approaching, I wanted to know how a Christian single guy handles this holiday. Is he sad? Depressed? Happy? Mad? I wanted the inside scoop! Thankfully, I was able to squeeze in a quick interview with a guy friend of mine. I came up with a few questions, sent them his way, and this is what he had to say. Be prepared to be encouraged and challenged all at the same time. Q: How do you handle Valentine’s Day? A: Sometimes Valentine’s Day stinks. On the day when it seems like every other person I know has that “special someone” in their life, there I sit,Full Post

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February 10, 2016
5 Things I Wish I Knew Before I Got Married

The first six months of my marriage were some of the most eye opening months of my life. Up until that point I thought being a wife and a help-mate was easy business. I felt fully prepared for my role as a wife. Major delusion. After six months of marriage I realized how utterly unprepared I was in certain areas. To be honest, there were five things I wish I had known before I got married. If you’re a single girl and are hoping to get married some day, this advice is for you. 1. Your Relationship with God is the KEY to Being a Happy Wife. I hadFull Post

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February 1, 2016
Always Pursue Your King Before Your Prince

I went through one of the hardest trials in my life when I was twenty years old. I was one week away from being engaged when everything suddenly ended. I never saw the ring and my “almost” husband exited my life forever. Thankfully, God was sparing me from entering into a marriage that would have been less-than-ideal (and a few years later I married Zack! Hallelujah!). The full story is too long to share right now, but I remember feeling a distinct void in my life right after that heart-wrenching breakup. Instead of turning wholeheartedly to God to fill my void, I sought attention from other guys. There wasFull Post

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January 22, 2016
When Girls Unknowingly Tempt Guys Toward Lust

I was standing in line at my local grocery store when an obnoxious magazine caught my eye. I’m used to seeing half-naked women on the cover of tabloids, but this image seemed even too edgy for a tabloid. A small wave of anger rushed over me as I thought of the innocent children and husbands who were being exposed to this – as I call it – “tabloid porn.” As I tried to refocus my thinking on something more positive, a middle aged couple got in line behind me. I watched in curiosity as the wife reached over and selected that magazine off the rack. I watched even moreFull Post

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January 18, 2016
7 Major Benefits of Saving Sex for Marriage – Part 2

I am sharing 7 major benefits of saving sex for marriage. This is the 2nd half of a two part series, so if you didn’t catch the first post, check it out here. You don’t want to miss it! 4. You Set Yourself Apart as Being Highly Valuable Girl, God says you are highly valuable to Him. He created you in His image and you carry immense worth and purpose because of Christ (Eph. 4:2-9). You are worth so much more than a cheap guy who isn’t patient enough to control his sexual passions. When you choose to save the gift of sex for marriage, you tell every guyFull Post

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January 15, 2016
7 Major Benefits of Saving Sex for Marriage – Part 1

I didn’t have sex until I got married. Zip. Zilch. Nada. According to our modern culture, I am nothing more than an ignorant, non-liberated, trapped female, stuck in the age of patriarchy. I didn’t express my sexual “freedom” like I should. I didn’t take advantage of the feminist’s offer to access free birth control as a teen. I didn’t follow my heart and do whatever felt right. Instead, I rebelled. I rebelled against our culture’s expectations for sex and the single girl, and instead, chased after something better. Saving sex for marriage is now considered “so 1800’s.” It’s a thing of the past. It’s for lame girls who can’tFull Post

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January 12, 2016
6 Guys You Definitely Don’t Want to Marry

I’ll never forget the days of being an innocent teen girl who viewed the world through rose colored glasses. I assumed the best of most everyone and figured a guy who claimed to be a Christian, had good manners, and was interested in me, must be a solid catch. And then I grew up. Reality hit. My eyes were opened. I learned very quickly that there are some solid Christian guys who would make for great husbands, and some who would not. I realized through personal experience (and observation of other relationships) that there are 6 types of guys I would never consider marrying (unless he had some seriousFull Post

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January 11, 2016
The Suffering Single

“Will he ever come along?” “Will she ever show up?” These are common questions young singles ask when no relationship materializes – or at least none that resulted in marriage. Why does a loving God allow us to experience this loneliness? Why do we have this longing for a relationship at all? Deep down, we all have a desire to love and to be loved.   Make no mistake; these are God given desires. There are two great commandments: love the Lord your God, and love your neighbor as yourself (Luke 10:27). As great as they are, there is no way for us to keep them in and of ourselves.Full Post

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December 28, 2015
You Only Need One Man to be Truly Satisfied

I feel so empty some days. Like part of my life or half of my heart is missing. Like I’m a puzzle waiting for that last piece to be put in its rightful spot so the masterpiece can be finished. I know my problem. I have a God-sized hole in my heart but I’ve been trying to fill that hole with a marriage-sized cork or a man-sized puzzle piece.   Neither of these were meant to fill the hole so they aren’t going to fill the emptiness. I have learned that only one man is able to truly fulfill me. Only one man has the ability to fully satisfyFull Post

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December 10, 2015
What to do When You’re Not Getting a Kiss Under the Mistletoe

The cold weather. The beautiful lights. The white snow. The music. The traditions. The feelings of warmth and love. The gifts. The Christmas season. I don’t know about you, but when the Christmas season rolls around, I get in a sentimental, sweet, and special sort of mood. I soak up my time spent with friends and family and treasure every special tradition we celebrate during the December month. One of my favorite parts of the Christmas season is…wait for it…the Christmas music. I absolutely L-O-V-E Christmas music. I admit, I’m guilty. I break all the rules. I started listening to Christmas music before Thanksgiving this year. I just can’tFull Post

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December 6, 2015
What’s A Girl To Do With Male Attention?

There it was again. That special look from a guy in my class who was a sandy-haired, blue-eyed walking Gap ad. This time, I hadn’t been mistaken—it was clear that he thought I was cute. The reality of that thought spread a foolish smirk across my face, and I felt my brain suddenly turn into a bowl of pudding. During that semester, his admiration was consistently obvious but not aggressive. I enjoyed the attention and began to look forward to receiving that lovely sense of affirmation every time I saw him.   Does this scenario sound familiar? As Christian women, how on earth should we react when we receiveFull Post

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December 2, 2015
Writing Letters to Your Future Husband

On October 1st, 2004, I sat down on my bedroom floor, grabbed a piece of plain paper, and penned my very first letter to my future husband. Since that day, I’ve written dozens of letters to this future unknown man. These letters contain prayers, dreams, thoughts, encouragement, Bible verses and so much more. My hope is that one day (if the Lord wills) I’ll be able to gift these to him as a reminder of my prayers for him and faithfulness to the Lord even before I knew who he was. These letters are (and continue to be) a huge reminder to me that my future husband is aFull Post

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November 18, 2015
Single Girls: Look for a Guy With Vision, Passion, and Purpose

I was 19 years old when love and romance came knocking on my door. He was funny, I laughed. He was cute, I was smitten. He liked me, I liked him. He pursued me, I fell in love. And then…it ended. As quickly as it started. My tears covered my pillow for weeks on end. It took me a good six months to get to the point of feeling recovered. Even though I was totally heartbroken, God gave me the grace to come to grips with the situation. Looking back I still can’t believe I was only 19 years old when I started my first serious relationship. I knewFull Post

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November 16, 2015
Should a Christian Girl Date or Court a Guy Who Struggles With Porn?

Megan met Josh through a young adults group at her church and had been going out with him for several weeks. One evening while having coffee with Josh, he confessed to her that he currently struggles with pornography and is trying really hard to stop. Megan wasn’t sure how to process this shocking information and went home with a conflicted heart. She hated the thought of Josh viewing pornography, but didn’t know if it was a big enough deal to end the relationship. What would you do if you were Megan? How harmful is pornography to a developing relationship? Is it wise for a single girl to date or courtFull Post

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November 13, 2015
How to Get Over a Guy in a God Honoring Way

You notice the guy. He catches your eye. Your heart races. You start dreaming. The week goes by and you can’t keep him out of your mind. Without even trying, he’s “won” your heart. You’ve planned your wedding, you’ve planned your future. You even have three adorable kids. And then…the dreaded happens. You find out that your dream dude has a girlfriend. “Noooooooo” you cry. Your future is ruined. Your dreams are shattered. All of your dreaming and scheming has come to an end and you are left with a “broken heart.” Sound familiar? Maybe your story isn’t so much a figment of your imagination, but an actual reality.Full Post

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November 1, 2015
From a Bad Romance to Finally Finding True Love

Our world often portrays singleness as a condition of loneliness, doomed to the unfortunate. I struggled with this for years. At one point in my life, “singleness” clouded my true identity with thoughts like…“since I’m not in a relationship, something must be wrong with me.” I allowed my relationship status to determine my value and worth. We, as Christian girls, are constantly reminded through music, movies, tv shows, commercials holidays and even our friends that we are missing out. We consequently develop an unhealthy desire to be in a relationship because of what we see and what we hear. We begin to glorify a “relationship” as our ultimate goalFull Post

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October 23, 2015
5 Tips for Avoiding a Happily Ever Disaster

After eight long grueling months, I finally walked the aisle to my “happily ever after.” My engagement to Zack felt like a never ending form of torture. If I had possessed the power to rotate the clock forward, I probably would have. To my surprise though, the big day did finally arrive. And before I even knew what was happening, I blinked, and found myself waking up next to my husband on our 4 year anniversary. Time flies. And it flies at supersonic speed. As I’m approaching 4 and a half years of marriage, I’m beginning to see things with a whole new perspective. The man I said “IFull Post

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October 16, 2015
The Pros and Cons of Online Dating from a Christian Girl’s Perspective

With technology continually on the rise and dating sites becoming much more of the norm, I think we should do ourselves a favor and dig into the topic of online dating. I have to be honest with you though, I’ve been avoiding the “online dating” topic like the plague. Why? Because I have several really close friends, that I greatly admire, who stand on the opposite side of the spectrum. Some friends love online dating to pieces and some can’t hate it enough. There are also great Christian ministries (that I highly respect) who hold very different views. On one hand there’s Leslie Ludy who is totally against itFull Post

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October 7, 2015
The Value of Waiting Until You’re of Marrying Age to Consider a Relationship

I looked at the caller ID on my pink razor flip phone and immediately got sweaty palms. I was 16 years old and was committed to only pursuing a relationship when I was ready or able to consider the possibility of marriage. As a 16 year old girl I knew I wasn’t ready. And I knew the guy calling on the other line wasn’t ready either. With feelings of hesitation I answered his call. “Hello, this is Bethany” “Hey Bethany!! How ya doing today?” The conversation continued and the expected happened. Jeremy expressed his interest and asked me if I would consider starting a relationship with him. I didn’tFull Post

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October 2, 2015
How I Recovered from Being a Desperate Flirt

It started when I was just 12 years old. I knew exactly what I wanted and I knew how to get it. Attention from Brandon was my goal, and flirting was my strategy. I was at a church camp playing knock out (a basketball game) under the pavilion. Time was ticking. My parents would be there any minute to pick me up. I needed to act quick before I lost my chance. Like a seasoned pro I put on my flirty smile, ran up to Brandon and grabbed the bandana from around his arm. Of course he chased after me and played right into my little game. Score! MissionFull Post

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August 12, 2015
Smart Dudes Aren’t Looking at Your Body

Back in the day, when I was on the lookout for a woman to marry, Kristen immediately caught my eye. She was (and still is) strikingly beautiful. Her smile was radiant. Her personality was warm and welcoming. She genuinely cared about everyone. She was joyful and everyone loved being around her. Bottom line, she was awesome. Guess what? It wasn’t her body that drew me to her. In fact, I don’t even remember being distracted by her body. She dressed in a way that drew attention to her face. Her clothing reflected the joy and love of Christ in her life. I didn’t have to wonder about her intentions.Full Post

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August 3, 2015
What’s a Girl to do When God Forgets to Write Her Love Story?

I grew up reading (and rereading) the insanely popular relationship books on courtship and dating. Titles like, “When God Writes Your Love Story,” “When Dreams Come True,” “I Kissed Dating Goodbye,” “Boy Meets Girl” and several others were well worn books on my bookshelf. As a 14,15,16 and 17 year old girl I was gung ho on board with the idea of “leaving the pen in God’s hands.” I trusted God big time. I wanted Him to write my love story. I wanted Him to show off in a mighty way in my love life. I was a “leave the pen in God’s hands” groupie like none other. YearFull Post

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July 31, 2015
Shirtless Guys: What Every Christian Girl Should Know

Shirtless guys. They’re everywhere. Go to any swimming pool or beach and you will see dozens of them. Watch any modern chick-flick and you’ll probably see a generous amount of them. The sidewalks in the summer reveal shirtless guys running. Pinterest is filled with thousands of “hot shirtless guy” boards. Instagram is loaded with male celebrities eager to fill your feed with their shirtless bods. Shirtless guys have been an increasingly common part of the modern American culture. However, it hasn’t always been this way. Wikipedia stated that “during the Victorian period, Western cultures deplored nudity of any degree, even barechested [shirtless] male swimmers at ocean beaches, and peopleFull Post

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July 27, 2015
When Guys Become More Exciting Than God

“He just texted me again!” Abby said with a girlish squeal. She and her two sisters were hanging out in her bedroom chatting about guy stuff. Abby was nineteen years old and secretly hoping that Clay was “the one.” She woke up every morning wondering if he had texted her. If he hadn’t texted her, she would instantly think, “I wonder if he’ll text me today!” Or “Should I shoot him a text?” Or “Should I try and casually sit by him when we hang out in groups?” Or “Maybe I should suggest going on a date…?” Thoughts like these consumed her mind morning until night for several months.Full Post

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July 17, 2015
Why Boyfriends Don’t Get Husband Privileges

He said he loved her. He asked her to move in with him. She liked him a lot. She decided to give it a try. One sunny afternoon, she loaded up her apartment and moved all of her stuff into her boyfriend’s place. They ate breakfast together. They ate dinner together. She did his laundry. She slept in his bedroom. She shared his bathroom. From the outside, they looked like a cute married couple. However, despite how “married” they looked, they were missing one key ingredient. Vows. Neither was committed long term. Neither was in a covenant with the other. Neither was 100% loyal to the other. Neither feltFull Post

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July 8, 2015
How Setting Up Boundaries Saved My Virginity

My romantic feelings were intense towards him. I’m typically a clear thinker, but my brain cells had turned instantly cloudy. I had no idea how quickly common sense could abandon my sense of reason. I was in love and on my way to marrying the man of my dreams. During my relationship and “dateship” with Zack (read more on that here), I experienced emotions, desires, urges, and temptations like I had never experienced before. I never knew how intense my desire for physical touch was until I was in a relationship with a guy that I really wanted to touch. I longed for physical contact. I longed to beFull Post

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June 22, 2015
10 Things I’ve Learned from Dating a Godly Man

I (Bethany) was chatting with my small group leader one night after Bible study. She is in a relationship getting to know a very godly man and of course I was curious to know the scoop. Time cut us short and we weren’t able to finish our conversation. Later that evening she sent me an email giving me more details and attached this list of 10 things she’s learning through her current relationship. I loved the wisdom that she offered in her ten points and I just couldn’t keep it to myself. I asked her if I could post the list as a blog and to my delight sheFull Post

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June 17, 2015
5 Qualities Christian Guys Find Extremely Unattractive in Girls

Christian guys and non-christian guys seem to be in agreement on one thing: qualities they do not find attractive in girls. Over the years in talking to my dad, brothers, guy friends and acquaintances, I’ve learned that there are certain qualities that guys do not find attractive or appealing in girls/women. I wanted to confirm what I’ve heard over the years, so I went to the internet and did loads of research. I scoured blog after blog after blog and what I found seemed to perfectly line up with what I’ve heard in the past. Christian guys and non-christian guys tend to agree on the qualities they find unattractiveFull Post

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June 3, 2015
A Love Story in the Mind

She was thirteen years old when she was noticed for the first time by a guy. Butterflies swarmed inside of her making her feel as if she was the most special thing in the world. She felt beautiful for the first time in her life, because no one had ever treated her like Austin did. Her parents were very Godly people and always tried their best to raise their kids the right way. However, they came from a worldly background before they came to know the Lord, so they were well aware of what the world and Satan had to offer for their children. Her parents warned her ofFull Post

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May 27, 2015
Answering Your Guy Questions

Like most of you, as a single girl, I had unanswered “guy questions” rolling around in my mind. I know many of you have guy questions because you email them to us at GirlDefined. Not to mention the last two conferences Bethany and I spoke at seemed to be sprinkled with questions about guys. So, today – I’ve decided to dedicate this post to your guy questions. I’ve hand picked 5 of the most common questions I hear from you and have attempted to answer them in a nutshell. Ready? Here we go! Question 1: What is a good age to start dating? As many of you know, I optedFull Post

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May 22, 2015
5 Signs You’re Not Ready for Marriage Yet

Before I got married, I remember people telling me things like, “Marriage is awesome, but it’s also a lot of work.” Or, “Marriage is a wonderful institution, but you’ll be challenged like never before.” Or, “Getting married is the most amazing thing on earth, but…you’ll also uncover new levels of selfishness in your heart that you didn’t know existed.” Well…as I look back on the past 4 years of my marriage to Zack, I realize that all of those statements are correct. Marriage is an incredible blessing from God, but it’s also one of the most “sanctifying” experiences I’ve ever had in my life. If there’s anything I’ve learnedFull Post

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May 20, 2015
Ignoring Guys: Spiritual or Just Plain Rude

A few years ago I attended a Christian singles dinner/conference and noticed a disturbing trend. Guys congregated on one half of the room and the girls socialized on the other. This was a “singles” event and the guys and girls literally were not speaking to one another…minus a few exceptions. After a few minutes of “guys on one half and girls on the other,” the speaker asked everyone to find a seat. As I sat down at a table, I looked around me and noticed something just plain ridiculous. Nearly every girl attending the conference huddled together and congregated at the same tables. Minus a small handful of braveFull Post

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April 20, 2015
10 Ideas on How to do Your Single Years Well

I sat on my bed, the tears flowing. I’d done it again, interacted with a nice guy and wondered if it was “him.” I got home and realized how incredibly ridiculous I had been. I felt like an utter failure at this being “content in the single years” thing. A failure at keeping my focus where it belonged. This could have been true of me two years ago or two months ago. Hello, my name is Moriah, I live in Illinois where it’s sometimes too cold and sometimes too hot. I have a wonderful family, a great church, and delightful friends. There are a lot of things that contributeFull Post

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April 13, 2015
Why Smart Girls Applaud Chivalry (From a Guy)

If you’re like some girls I know, you think chivalry has gone extinct. Or at least is in hibernation. Even as a guy, I look around and see so few men being courteous to women. It’s surprising (not to mention embarrassing). I am constantly asking myself “Is chivalry dead?” Let me be honest: I don’t think it is. I see examples of it in men all around me. It’s just not as common as it used to be. Noah Webster’s 1828 dictionary defines “chivalry” as “the system of knighthood; the privileges, characteristics or manners of knights; the practice of knight errantry [if you’re wondering what “errantry” means, it wasFull Post

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April 10, 2015
The Hardest Thing About Being a Christian Single Girl

I’ve been thinking about this specific blog post for the past two weeks. When I first thought of the title I was excited and ready to write. And then I realized that this isn’t just a normal (1. opening story 2. helpful advice 3. ending questions) blog post. This is a blog post that requires me to be totally down-to-earth and honest. It’s a time for me to open up my heart and be as truthful as I possibly can. I want you to know that I’m just a regular girl, with regular struggles, and regular fears. My life is far from perfect and I am far from perfect.Full Post

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March 25, 2015
How to Change a Guy from a Frog into a Hero

“Guys are stupid.” “Girls are smarter.” “Girls are better than boys.” “Guys don’t know anything.” “Guys don’t have common sense.” These are some of the statements Bethany and I heard again and again from the girls we interviewed during our GirlDefined video (watch here). Our poor brother was behind the camera and later commented on how negative the comments had been. The theme was obvious. The average girl doesn’t view the average guy in very high regard. The “girls rule and boys drool” chant has traveled far beyond the playground. Our society as a whole portrays the average male as nothing more than a stupid, helpless, good-for-nothing slob. AlthoughFull Post

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March 23, 2015
Why Do Girls Always Ask, “Is He Cute?”

It happened twice in one week. I went out to coffee with two different friends, two separate times, both in the same week. Like any normal girls, we talked about the latest “guy updates” in our lives. Here is how our conversation went. Friend: “Soooo, any guy updates in your life?” Me: “Not really any major updates, but there is one guy I’d love to spend some more time with. Friend: “Oh my goodness . . . is he cute?” Me: “Well . . . yeah, I think he is.” Friend: “What does he look like? Do you have a picture?” Do you see what happened in that conversation? MyFull Post

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March 16, 2015
Turning Your “Husband Wish List” On Yourself

It was one of those winter days where you’re never quite warm enough, unless you’re curled up in a big bed with a soft blanket and a good book. I didn’t have anything else to do, so I pulled the covers all around me, and instead of a book, I chose my journal. I had been thinking a lot about character qualities that I would look for in a future husband, so I chose that as my topic, and began writing. In a sense, I was writing out my “husband wish list.” As I wrote, a realization struck me, and the words of a sermon by Andy Stanley cameFull Post

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March 4, 2015
How to do Prom in a Modest and Pure Way

I scoured the local department stores hoping to find something to wear to prom. I was sixteen years old and was about to experience my first and last prom. Like any normal girl, I wanted to look my absolute best. I wanted feel and look like a princess. After days of endless searching, I decided that the words modesty, tall, and prom did not exist in the same category. I talked with my mom and she kindly took on the task of sewing me a floor length, red silk dress. The day of prom finally arrived. I was so excited. This was something I hoped I would get toFull Post

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February 25, 2015
How to Be Intentionally Available Without Chasing Boys

“Do you think there is a difference between chasing a boy and maturely showing interest in one?” -Rachel This question popped up after we posted a popular article called “When Girls Chase Boys They Don’t Get What They Want.” If you haven’t read it yet, you should! Check it out here, then come back and finish this blog. Back to Rachel. She asks a great question. I used to wrestle with this question myself. In fact, the conclusion I came to was instrumental during my early relationship with Zack. Is it possible to maturely initiate interest in a guy? Well, it depends on what we mean by the wordFull Post

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February 18, 2015
3 Ways to Encourage the Guys in Your World

It was a hot, Texas day about eight summers ago when I had a huge revelation about guys. I was with my team of twelve, six guys and six girls, preparing for a national sporting competition. After one of our many practices under the boiling sun, our coach suggested that we take turns offering up words of encouragement to each other. I guess it was supposed to be a team building activity of sorts. To say the least, I wasn’t really excited about this time of “sharing.” Typically, they contain awkward moments of silence with lots of crickets chirping. But, I didn’t really have a choice in the matter.Full Post

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February 13, 2015
Being Faithful to a Man You’ve Never Met

I was driving down the highway. Music off. Brain on. Thinking about my life. With talk of Valentine’s in the air, my thoughts drifted toward my future. The simple idea of my future husband being alive and breathing, made me excited. Wow! My future husband is alive, breathing and living life. That’s cool.  And then it hit me. If it’s God’s will for me to get married, my future husband is a real living guy. Not just an imaginary person. One day I will meet him, marry him and spend the rest of my life with him. When I think about my future in such an incredibly realistic way,Full Post

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February 11, 2015
When Romantic Fantasies Get the Best of You

I was at a major league baseball game recently with my grandparents when the strangest thing happened. As the game reached the ninth inning, an entire flock of teen and college age girls began swarming towards my section. They quickly formed a line right across the aisle from where I was sitting. Apparently they were lining up to get photos with some guy. I couldn’t figure out what was so special about this guy, so I asked one of the girls rushing past. She looked at me in slight shock and said. “It’s Juan Pablo Galavis!” I stared blankly back. “Who’s that?” I asked. She looked even more shocked. “He’sFull Post

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February 9, 2015
Does the Month of February Put You in a Bad Mood?

The month of love. The month of romance. The month of roses, chocolates and romantic candlelit dinners. February is known for loading the stores with speciality gifts, beautiful bouquets and heart melting cards. Red, pink and hearts fill the aisles reminding us that it’s almost Valentine’s Day!!! What a fun holiday…if you have a guy! For the rest of us, Valentine’s Day is known as none other than, “Singles Awareness Day.” The day we are confronted with the fact that we are still single. Instead of enjoying the month of February, we, as singles, dread it. We dread the flowers. Dread all the romance in the air. Dread allFull Post

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February 6, 2015
When Girls Chase Boys They Don’t Get What They Want

“Hey, my friend wanted me to tell you that he thinks you’re pretty.” This young whippersnapper pointed across the basketball gym towards his friend. I glanced across the gym and noticed a good looking guy sitting on the second row. “Oh really?” I said raising my eyebrows. “Well, then tell your friend to come tell me that himself.” I smiled. The guy shook his head in acknowledgment and ran off. Later that day, the “real guy” did come talk to me. He didn’t tell me I was pretty to my face, but he did strike up a conversation. We had a fun “teenager-style” chat and I walked away withFull Post

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January 26, 2015
How to Handle Your First Real Heartbreak

“Bethany, you’ve got to come to Bible study with me. I met this super cool guy and I think he might ask me out soon!!! Oh, and his best friend is awesome too. Maybe you could get to know him *wink wink*.”  I was nineteen years old, carefree and enjoying my post high school freedom. A serious relationship wasn’t really on my mind at this point. I wasn’t interested in going to meet a guy for me, but, decided to go for my friend. If one of my close girl friends was interested in a guy, I wanted to see what the dude was all about. First Serious LoveFull Post

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January 16, 2015
How to Handle Those Unexpected Single Years

Me: “Sooooo any new guy prospects in your life?” Kelly: “Nope, none in mine. What about you?” Me: “Are you kidding? I’m just as single as ever!” Kelly: “Well, at least we have each other.” Me: “No kidding. I’m glad I’m not the only single girl in town.” That is a typical conversation between me and my friend Kelly. We are both in our mid twenties and *I don’t want to say this* still single. Kelly and I have known each other for nearly our entire lives. Neither one of us would have ever guessed that we would both be in our mid twenties and still single. I alwaysFull Post

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January 9, 2015
Dating and Courtship: Is One Better Than the Other?

“So..hey…can I have your phone number?” He asked me smoothly. I pretended not to notice his chuckling friends in the background. There was no way in the world I was giving this guy my phone number. For one, I just met him. Two, I was only sixteen. Three, he wasn’t the type of guy I wanted to stay in “touch” with anyways. If you catch my drift. So, I did what any good Christian girl would do. I decided to play a little joke on him. “Yeah…I’ll give you my phone number” I replied. “But you’ll have to ask my dad for it.” Okay – the chances of this guyFull Post

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December 1, 2014
Why I’m Not Looking for JUST a Husband

I am going to do something that I’ve never done in a blog post before. I’m going to open up my journal and share some completely personal things that I wrote down this past week. Here’s the deal, last week I was sitting on my bed praying for different members in my family, for the GirlDefined Ministry and then, for my future husband. As I was praying for my future husband, my mind started working and I began truly thinking about what I was praying for. I wondered…am I praying for JUST a husband or am I praying for something more? Do I JUST want to get married andFull Post

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November 7, 2014
What Your Dream Guy Wants in a Girl

I recently did an interview on the topic of dating, marriage and courtship. I was giving my thoughts on romance, boundaries, guys and how I want my future relationship to work out. One of the questions the lady interviewing me asked was “what qualities are you looking for in guy?”  Talk about a super basic question that I should easily know the answer to. Wrong! I was totally caught off guard and had to scramble to give an answer. It had been awhile since I’d seriously thought through that question and wasn’t really prepared. After the interview I rethought through her question and was pretty satisfied with my “on the spot”Full Post

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November 5, 2014
How to Have Godly Friendships with Guys

Interacting with guys on a regular basis is a normal part of life. Some girls go out of their way to make sure they get plenty of guy time in their life, while other girls awkwardly avoid contact with guys. Whether you feel natural and comfortable around guys or not, you need to learn what the right and biblical way to treat them is. I love what Leslie Ludy says about this topic, “It’s not more spiritual to act shy and insecure in a conversation with a guy. You can be friendly, outgoing, and confident toward any guy you meet. The key is to be God-honoring in the wayFull Post

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October 31, 2014
From a Guy: Why Being Different is Good

*Disclaimer: To those of you who hate and fear bugs, please brave your fear and continue reading. Lucy the ladybug has a pretty good life. Lots to eat, wings she can use to fly, and a colorful outfit to boot. But one day Lucy sees Doris the doodlebug. Doris’s whole life is a party – lots of friends, great food, surrounded by guy doodlebugs, and wearing the newest style. Doris is living the dream. Lucy envies Doris. Pretty soon she starts using the words Doris uses, crawling like Doris, and eating the same things as Doris. But no matter how hard Lucy tries, she still sticks out like aFull Post

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October 24, 2014
When “The Best of Me” Isn’t That Good

Boy meets girl, they “fall in love,” they jump in bed together, and then grow up and move miles apart. Unfortunately, the story doesn’t end there. If having sex before marriage wasn’t bad enough, this pair of high school sweethearts return to their hometown many years later and decide to hook up again. There’s a catch though. She now has a husband. Instead of remaining faithful to her husband and family, she believes “fate” is reuniting her with her former beau. Instead of telling him, “Sorry, I’m married and can’t go out with you anymore,” she jumps at the chance to rekindle an old flame. In dazzling lights andFull Post

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October 17, 2014
How Boy-Crazy Are You? {Free Book Giveaway}

Does boy craziness seem so . . . junior high? You might be surprised. Take the Boy-Crazy Quiz to find out where your focus is. Simply answer yes or no to the following fourteen questions. I’m going to make a quick cup of chai while you’re working on it. See you in a few! In a room full of people, do you always know where “he” is? (yes/no) Are boys your number-one favorite topic of conversation with your friends? (yes/no) Do you often dress to catch a guy’s attention? (yes/no) Do you replace one crush with another almost as soon as you realize the first relationship is not going anywhere?Full Post

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October 1, 2014
Guy Answers Questions on Purity Rings, Weight, Makeup and More

It seems like every girl has questions in the back of her mind that she just wishes she could ask a godly guy. Questions that would give her as close to a “guy’s perspective on life” as she could get. We are so glad to inform you that this post is exactly that!   We had the opportunity to have three young ladies brainstorm and come up with a few questions that they would ask a guy, if given the opportunity. Their questions are in bold below. We took those questions and sent them on over to our guy blogger, Beecher, and had him answer the questions from his perspective.Full Post

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September 29, 2014
Surviving the Relationship Status

Lori tossed her books onto her nightstand and then threw herself onto her bed. She began sobbing into her pillow. God had finally blessed her with an amazing man in her life and things were going great between them. She just couldn’t understand why she felt so scared and so upset.  Lori had thought that once she began a relationship with someone it would be fun and all of her problems would go away! So why was Lori so out of whack and emotional? Because things were changing. Life couldn’t be the same way that it had always been for Lori and that thought scared her. Flashes of doubt,Full Post

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September 19, 2014
Duggar Girls, Guys and People Magazine

I set my groceries on the counter at the checkout line and noticed a Duggar girl on the front of PEOPLE magazine. I was shocked!  In case you aren’t familiar with the Duggars, they are a famous conservative, Christian and homeschooling family. They are well known for their reality television series called 19 Kids and Counting.  Think about that, an ultra conservative homeschooling family with 19 kids being featured on the cover of PEOPLE magazine. That just doesn’t make any sense. PEOPLE magazine is the source for celebrity updates and gossip. Homeschool families and PEOPLE Magazine do not jive. Why would any reader of PEOPLE magazine care about theFull Post

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August 25, 2014
College, Guys, and the Homeschooled Girl

School is starting and that means college will be commencing soon too. All of your friends are going off to college and you feel left out, shied into a corner and stuffed into a box with the rest of your homeschooled friends. What’s worse is that maybe you’re old enough to have a boyfriend now and it seems like all of your friends have either been in a relationship or they are in one now. You’re the odd ball out on this one too. Boys seem like uncharted territory to you. You wish you could crawl up into your bed, pull the covers over your head and just waitFull Post

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August 15, 2014
Inspire Boys to Become Men

Guys are watching. It was a hot Texas day about eight summers ago when I had a huge revelation about guys. I was with my team of twelve, six guys and six girls, preparing for a national sporting competition. After one of our many practices under the boiling sun, our coach suggested that we take turns offering up words of encouragement to each other. I guess it was supposed to be a team building activity of sorts. To say the least, I wasn’t really excited about this time of “sharing.” Typically, they contain awkward-moments-of-silence with lots of *crickets chirping.* But, I didn’t really have a choice in the matter.Full Post

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August 14, 2014
Help for the Crush-Obsessed Girl

It’s 7:00pm and the varsity guy’s basketball team is running onto the court. I have a front row seat in the bleachers when I set eyes on him. Tall, blue eyes, good-looking, extremely athletic – how was a girl supposed to resist crushing on this guy?? Our eyes met during the game while he was shooting free throws (and I was sitting strategically behind the goal). Sparks flew. He slipped a dozen more glances at me throughout the game and I was toast. He casually made his way over to me after the game and introduced himself. We chatted for a few minutes before his coach called him awayFull Post

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August 13, 2014
Guy Thoughts: Come on Girl, Keep it Modest

In today’s culture modesty is totally out of style. The phrase that I’d say best describes the current trend would be “less is more – show your skin.” Skin is everywhere: billboards, magazines, social media – everyone everywhere seems to be attempting to show off as much skin as possible and draw as much attention to themselves as they can. The American culture is constantly putting the *wrong* message into girls’ heads. “If you don’t flaunt what you’ve got, guys are going to pass you over and move on to the skin-revealing, midriff-baring, hottie.” You probably already know this, but I’ll say it anyways: Guys are extremely visual. IFull Post

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August 12, 2014
Confessions of a Flirting Queen

Where it all began. I was in sixth grade and knew exactly how to work it. Every girl at church camp liked the same guy and I was determined to get his attention. He was cute, popular and I wanted nothing less than for him to like me. I wasn’t interested in a relationship or anything serious because I was only 12 years old. I just liked the way I felt when I had his attention. I clearly remember the situation. We were playing knock out (a basketball game) on the camp sports court. I made my shot and then went in to lure my prey. I ran overFull Post

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August 11, 2014
How Christian Guys Describe a Godly Girl

Click HERE to watch the video. I was one of those high school girls who was all about guys. A day didn’t go by where I wasn’t thinking about one of my crushes. I spent a lot of time flirting with guys, but even more than that I spent countless hours dreaming about them. I clearly remember wondering what certain guys were thinking. Getting inside of a guy’s mind intrigued me and I wanted to know how they thought about girls. Have you ever wanted to know that? Well, several years later my wishes became reality. I got married! Ever since then I’ve had a front row seat into the mindFull Post

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August 1, 2014
Letting Go of the Guy

I was recently in a very serious relationship with a young man, praying over the possibility of getting married. After long hours of praying, fasting, and more praying, God made His will known. Although the answer wasn’t what I had originally hoped for, I surrendered my dreams of marriage to God and ended the relationship. Letting go of the guy wasn’t easy.  If you have ever been in a break-up, ended courtship, broken engagement, etc., you know just how hard ending a relationship can be. When I started this relationship, I wanted to get married very badly and didn’t want anyone or anything to get in my way. Thankfully,Full Post

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July 28, 2014
Guys Speak Out About Girls Showing Cleavage

The girls in the audience sat on the edges of their seats as they watched the video play. The speaker had recorded several different godly guys sharing their personal thoughts and opinions on the topic of modesty. The guys were asked very specific questions about modesty and then the recording was replayed on the big screen for the girls. One question was asked,  “When a girl shows midriff is that a temptation for you as a guy? Why or why not?” The girls in the audience were shocked to hear the responses from the guys. The girls had no idea that the clothes they wear could be such aFull Post

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July 21, 2014
Should Christian Girls Kiss Before Marriage?

I’m just going to be honest from the get-go. I’m twenty-five years old, I’ve been in two serious relationships, and I’ve never kissed a guy. It’s not because I think kissing is gross, or that I’ve never wanted to kiss. The fact is, I’m saving my very first kiss for my future husband on the day of our wedding. Kissing is totally the norm. In a day and age where kissing is the norm for elementary schoolers and losing your virginity in, or by high school is expected, it seems absurd and ridiculous that anyone would possibly save their first kiss for marriage. I’m totally aware of the factFull Post

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July 16, 2014
Praying For Your Future Husband

Jason grabbed a cup of coffee on the way out the door. It was summer and that meant working like crazy before the college season hit. Jason started the engine and then realized he hadn’t spent any time praying or reading God’s Word. He sat in the car for a few minutes, opened up his daily devotional app on his cell phone and read the verse of the day. “Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me” (Psalm 51:10). Jason closed his eyes and asked God to give him the strength to guard his mind and live a pure life. He putFull Post

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June 30, 2014
2 Things I Look for in a Girl (From a Guy)

You’ve heard the question asked. Your brothers, your friends, and your cousins have all had this question posed to them (or will eventually). It sometimes causes a sudden shuffling of the feet and anxious stares out the window. It’s the question which will never get exactly the same response: “What are you looking for in a wife?” If you feel like the answers could be limitless… join the club! There are some obvious answers (especially for a Christian guy) like, “I want her to love the Lord with all her heart,” “I want her to be a Proverbs 31 woman” and on down the line. But today I wantFull Post

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June 27, 2014
Modern Guys Who Value Modesty

In 2010 five young guys stepped onto the music scene and stole the hearts of millions of teenage girls worldwide. They went from being five nobodies, to claiming international fame within months. How did they do this? By simply appealing to every girls heartfelt longing – to be called beautiful. Girls swarmed by the thousands to their concerts to hear them passionately sing to them about just that. This famous boy-band from England broke international records with their debut single, What Makes You Beautiful. Yes, you called it. I’m talking about the band One Direction. Don’t get confused though, these aren’t the guys who value modesty. We’re about toFull Post

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May 30, 2014
From a Guy: How to Challenge the Guys in Your Life

Many of my girl friends are in mourning. They talk about their loss a TON (though they don’t go around dressed in black). In fact, we all talk about the loss. The reason for their mourning is simple: It’s the demise of manhood. I don’t blame them. Where have the men gone? Are they under a rock?! (I’m a guy – I can say that.) When I go out to eat and there is a girl in the group, I don’t see many guys opening doors (actually, they do open the door. Then they let it slam on their female companion). I don’t see many guys giving up theirFull Post

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May 23, 2014
Godly Guys Have These 4 Things in Common

“He’s one of the cutest guys I know! I seriously have a major crush on him.” It was 3 am and the conversation was just getting good. “Yeah, Caleb is good looking alright, but his older brother, Josh, has him totally beat!” We giggled like little girls. “Would you marry Josh if you could?” I asked my friend with a wink. Without hesitation her words bursted out, “In a heartbeat! I would marry that guy tomorrow if he asked me. He’s perfect!” This was me at fourteen years old pulling an all-nighter with one of my good friends. Like most girls, we loved talking about our latest crushes andFull Post

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May 9, 2014
4 Tips Your Future Husband Wants You to Know

I love road trips. Especially road trips with super fun people like my husband, Zack, and my awesome siblings. Several weeks ago I ventured with those people on a road trip to my 3rd favorite state, Colorado (Texas and Alaska ranking higher, respectively). The entire trip was great until the last leg on the way back home. Zack brought up a topic that instantly sparked some heated discussion between the five of us. As the conversation progressed, sides began to form, leaving it 3 against 2. I ended up agreeing and siding with one other person (and it wasn’t Zack) as we unashamedly voiced our opinions. The conversation wasn’tFull Post

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April 30, 2014
A Call to Manhood – Part 2

This is part two in a series. Check out part one here if you missed it. So what’s the solution? Actually, the real question should be “is there even a solution?” And my answer is yes. But before you come to the solution, you must be resolved to do what it takes to reclaim true manhood. There’s nothing easy about becoming a real man in today’s world. You’ll be flying in the face of everyone and, very likely, everything you’ve been taught. But your quest will be worth it. And once you begin your journey to being a real man, you’ll realize that sacrifices, pain, hard work, and theFull Post

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April 28, 2014
A Call to Manhood – Part 1

I’m sick of the grocery store parking lot. Nope, it’s not because I seem to be there all the time picking something up (I’m a guy, and the grocery store is full of food. That’s a winning situation right there). The reason I’m sick of the grocery store parking lot is because it’s a showcase for the lack of true men in our world today. I realize beginning a blog post in the parking lot of the grocery store is a little unusual. But as I’ve been stewing on this issue lately, it seemed a good place to start. You see, as I’ve been in the parking lot, theFull Post

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April 24, 2014
Give the Guy a Chance

I was a sophomore in high school and had just finished playing in the semi-finals for a big basketball tournament. As my team and I were sitting in the bleachers scouting out our championship game competition, one of the high school guys teams came and sat right behind us. It just so happened that they quickly struck up a conversation and went on to introduce themselves. It didn’t take long for my ears to tune in to their major language problem. Their English was fine but their choice of words was borderline sailor language. Being the outgoing girl on my team, I turned around and looked at the leaderFull Post

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April 18, 2014
The Trend of the Feminine Guy

It all started a few years ago. Guys began throwing away their rough and tough work pants for a pair of teeny-bopper-skinny-stretch-jeans. How or why a guy would want to wear girl’s jeans I’ll never understand. But it’s happened and it’s encouraged our generation of guys and girls to accept a new form of feminine masculinity. It’s not accidental either. I googled “the trend of the feminine guy” and came up with quotes like these: “Diminished Masculinity” “Mens Fashion has been feminized” “Add a Purse and you have the final nail in the coffin of masculinity” The fashion industry as a whole doesn’t create “accidental” clothing. They have anFull Post

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August 16, 2013
God, I don’t Understand

“God, I don’t understand why my parents got divorced.” “God, I don’t understand why I’m still single.” “God, I don’t understand why we had to move across the country.” “God, I don’t understand why my parents have such strict rules for me.” “God, I don’t understand why my family is on such a tight budget.” I vividly remember a time in my life when I had my very own “I don’t understand why” moment. I was nineteen going on twenty when God allowed a guy to enter the scene of my life. I met this guy (let’s call him Nate) at my church’s young adult Bible study. Slowly butFull Post

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February 14, 2013
Confessions of a Single Girl

It’s Valentine’s Day and romance is in the air. If you had asked me when I was twelve years old what I would be doing at twenty-four years old, I would have never said, “still single.” As a little girl I thought that meeting prince charming, falling in love, and living happily ever after was (basically) the entire point of being a woman. In my little girl mind, not being married by at least age 19 would have been in a disaster. Could there be more to life than romance? As the years have passed, I’ve spent countless hours reading and studying God’s plan for this season of myFull Post

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September 26, 2012
The Hollywood Guy

Hollywood has been cramming lies down our throats for a long time. It’s time we stood up and said, “no more!” I am personally sick of the self-centered, sex-crazy, girl obsessed guys that Hollywood offers me. I often wonder why we as young women are accepting this low standard of masculinity. Is there anything else out there besides the Hollywood male? Do mighty warriors and honorable gentleman still exist? In the very beginning God created Adam to work in the garden. He tended the garden and animals by providing for the basic needs of his home. God then gave him a beautiful woman to be his helper. He wasFull Post

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June 30, 2012
5 Reasons Guy Friends Can Be Tricky

It had been a while since my friend Lacy and I had gone out to dinner. We picked a nice sit down restaurant and started our meal with a mouth watering appetizer. Our conversation quickly turned to our personal lives and what had been going on over the past couple of weeks. Lacy started sharing with me the struggle she was having treating a guy friend with too much attention and was concerned about their friendship. She was having one of those “he’s just like a brother” moments. Lacy and I both admitted that a guy friend is different than a girl friend no matter what we say. LookingFull Post

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June 29, 2012
Calling all the Single Ladies

Have you ever had one of those AH-HA moments in your life? I had one of those last week as I was talking to a friend about her recent broken engagement. She shared her heartache with me, but also the hope of knowing that God is sovereign and He does have a plan for her life. God knew her engagement would be broken and still allowed her to go through it for a very specific reason. Although she may not understand why, she is choosing to trust God and praise Him through this storm. She went on to explain to me how she is grateful that God is givingFull Post

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March 28, 2012
Praying for Your Future Husband (Video)

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March 19, 2012
I’m Just not Attracted to Him

“I am just not attracted to him…” Have you ever said those words about a guy before? Do you know a guy who is really awesome in every way (he loves the Lord, is Godly, kind, desires to grow, etc.), but you are just not attracted to his outward appearance? I have been there and know exactly what that feels like. Over the past few months God has been teaching me some “hard truths” about the reality of my own heart and motives in the way I view certain guys. I want to share with you what the word “attraction” has meant to me in the past and whatFull Post

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January 30, 2012
Are Shirtless Guys Okay to Look at?

Our culture teaches us that men with six packs, muscular arms, and tan abs are the sexy ones. It’s becoming more common to find movies with a young male actor on the screen who is constantly taking off his shirt and displaying his abs for everyone. I was actually convicted about this on a personal level last year. I was engaged to a wonderful and godly man named Zack (whom I am now married to), and our wedding day was only three months away. Out of desperation to get fit before my big day, I purchased an intense workout video serious. After watching about thirty seconds of the firstFull Post

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