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It Takes a Strong Girl to Obey God’s Word

By: Bethany Beal

I was thirteen going on fourteen and dying for my birthday to arrive. I had asked my parents for my very own weight bench and I couldn’t wait to start lifting those weights.

Yes, I know that’s a little weird. What thirteen year old girl wants a weight bench for her birthday?

I knew that increasing my strength would make me a better basketball player and that’s exactly what I wanted. I wanted to be strong so that I could be successful.

As I’ve grown older my desire to be strong has only increased.

Don’t worry, I’m not into bodybuilding or anything like that. In fact, my weight bench is long gone and was replaced with running clothes and elliptical machines.

When I say that my desire to be strong has increased, I’m talking about being emotionally and spiritually strong.

I’ve realized that being a serious Christ follower requires strength like none other.

Our culture is not pushing us as Christian girls towards true strength. If anything, they are encouraging us to be wimpy women. We are being fed the messages day in and day out to believe in ourselves, to follow our feelings and to live for our own desires.

Following the culture’s advice is easy. It doesn’t require strength of any kind.

Way too often I’ve bought into that mindset and wimped out. I’ve allowed the culture to shape my views and given into my emotions and whims.

If you want to be a strong girl, you must learn to obey God’s Word even when you don’t feel like it.

We have enough wimpy girls in the Christian community. Way too many of us have given up on God’s truths when it’s hard or takes sacrifice. We’ve given into peer pressure, allowed the culture to shape our views and followed our emotions.

If you want to join the ranks of strong girls, here are some ideas.

It takes a strong girl to…

  1. Get up every morning and spend time with God even when she’s tired.
  2. Make the effort to dress modestly even when modest clothing is hard to find.
  3. Control her words and choose to refrain from gossip.
  4. Overcome her feelings and choose to give up a guy if she knows he isn’t God’s best for her.
  5. Give up TV shows, movies and music that don’t pass the Philippians 4:8 test.
  6. Respect her parents even when she thinks they are being totally unreasonable.
  7. Intentionally invest in and spend time with her siblings, despite if they annoy her.
  8. Choose to forgive someone who has sinned against her.
  9. Intentionally hold back and allow the young men around her to lead.
  10. Keep her mouth shut and avoid saying everything that comes to her mind.

Do you see how hard it is to be a strong girl?

That list is brief compared to everything that goes into being a strong Christian girl. It’s not easy and it takes a lot of courage, strength and focus on God.

If you desire to reject wimpy womanhood and embrace true strength, let me know by leaving your name in the comments section below.

I’d also love to hear how you would finish this sentence, “It takes a strong girl to…” I shared my list of ten, now it’s your turn.

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67 Responses to It Takes a Strong Girl to Obey God’s Word

  1. Pooja jersy says:

    Its is very usefull and strongest mag for girls… Bcz this is the ending time and this generation is going to worldly life more and there is no security for women in all countries…… Yes u r right as a girl we have to be no no we should a strong girl in christ and we have to kn our value in christ…. I have seen one quote if girl find out her worth in christ means she can change this world its seems…. and off course girl can do anything if she lost her heart in jesus.. And strongest girl in christ is the secret weapon of god …… Yes girls having a one kind of power so we have get that power from christ…….. This is encouraging msg for girls…. Thank u so much for sharing this word …. May god bless ur ministeries

  2. Funmi ✞ says:

    Funmi (pronounced with a silent ‘n’ {Fu-mee})

    It takes a strong girl to reflect and honour Christ in EVERY. SINGLE. THING. and EVERY.SINGLE.SITUATION or circumstance she’s in

  3. Elisabeth says:

    It take a strong girl too:Not given in to what feels right,To not put anything before God,To always keep her Mouth Clean,To Wear Beautiful and Catchy,but Modest Clothes,To only read decent books and stay away from the rest,To judge any kind if movie (Even if it was one of her fav’s”The way God see’s it,To see that music that is worth listening to,will be pretty,and fun not loud and annoying,To judge All TV Not just Modern tv the right way and to do her Best to see it the way God see’s it,To Even when She’s Tired or seemingly unwilling to keep wanting to love and trust Christ,To try and Not lower her slanders for ANY REASON,And To Have Her Biggest and Most Hope For Goals be Not just for her,but to showcase God’s Glory as Well and to in the Best way she know’s how try and show others to Christ!!
    { Elisabeth}

  4. Sarah says:

    11. Make a difference in her community for the cause of Christ. This one I am struggling with now.

  5. SavedbyGrace says:

    It takes a strong girl to end the wrong relationships/friendships, no matter how hard it is. I’m struggling with letting go of one particular relationship with a guy:( It hurts so much, but it is the right thing to do after much prayer, and advice:) I just wish it didn’t hurt so much. I hope that you’ll pray for me:) I just want some relief from the pain that I’m having from ending this relationship. When you care for someone for so long, it becomes extremely difficult to detach yourself from that person. The post was encouraging for me to be a strong girl for the Lord, no matter how much it hurts.

  6. Elizabeth Williams says:

    I’ve never thought about it this way, but everything you said is so true. Other things that can be hard 1. Sharing our faith with others 2. Keep standing for the Lord even when those around us are giving in 3. Not allowing our feelings to dictate our choices, attitudes, etc. 4. Keep praying even when the answer doesn’t seem to be in sight.

  7. Yazmin says:

    “It takes a strong girl to…”
    1. Put on the armor of God and fight against the Enemy and his barrage of lies
    2. Step outside of your comfort zone
    3. Share your faith and the hope that you have in Christ with others
    4. Boldly proclaim that you are with Jesus, even though He is mocked and ridiculed today (and even if you appear foolish and stupid)
    5. Not allow the fear of man or trying to please man to dictate your decisions and choices
    6. Wait for God’s best, concerning a relationship
    7. Resist the temptation to flirt or try to attract a man (in your heart or outwardly)
    8. Love the unlovable, especially those who hurt, ridicule, or persecute you
    9. Continue to be on fire for Jesus and cling to him
    10. Wrestle in prayer for a situation or for certain people, even when you do not see the manifestation of said prayer in the physical realm

  8. Leisha says:

    It takes a strong girl to fight against sexual immorality in kind of form.

  9. Effie says:

    It takes a strong girl to:
    Actively share the message.

  10. Jesusfreak17 says:

    I have a question about number 9. I totally agree with it when it comes to relationships but in secular/nonromantic settings it seems less relevant. That doesn’t mean we should be bossy in any situation and if a guy holds a door or has a decent idea in class we should let them do that but I don’t think that’s not applicable for every situation. What does the Bible say about this?

    • Adem Cindrah says:

      I think the Bible only tells us to be submissive to our husbands, because there can never be two heads. That much I agree. We are also told to have a gentle, quiet spirit. i.e not loud, mouthy and gossipy. However, I doubt God would give a woman a gift of leadership only to have her sit on the back burner just coz she’s a woman. There are situations in life that definitely require us women to take the stage and steer things foward. Such is the strength of a woman.

      • Jesusfreak17 says:

        Okay, that’s what I thought too. 🙂 I was just confused by how they phrased it.

      • GirlDefined says:

        @ademcindrah:disqus Great thoughts. There are many times that we as women need to use our strengths in a God honoring and respectful way. I was mostly referring to the fact that many of us do not allow men to be men. We don’t even give them the opportunity to lead. That is something I think each one of us could work on. I know it does not come naturally for me 🙂

    • GirlDefined says:

      @jesusfreak17:disqus See answer below. For many Christian girls taking control and leading isn’t an issue. The issue is allowing the young men (or dad, brother etc.) to lead. I agree that it doesn’t apply to every situation. There are many times we are called to lead in specific areas and we need to do that well.

  11. Rae says:

    It takes a strong girl to ask for help.

  12. Annie Edwards says:

    It takes a strong girl to confess your sins (James 5:16) to someone so you can move past them, and be held accountable for throwing them off. A strong girl will utilize the blessing of Christian sisters to confide in, and will listen with sealed lips when others need them. I’m Annie, and I want to be a girl who GOD considers strong. Thank you for this thought provoking article 🙂

  13. Cat says:

    Hello I’m new to your site and I really enjoy reading some of your articles. I understand that women and men are called to different roles, but I don’t understand how one “intentionally” steps back to let a young man lead. Christian women were called to be leaders as well, such as Esther and more modern examples like Joan of Arc. Maybe you just made an over generalization, but God values women bearing His torch and leading too.

    • Victoria says:

      I think that’s where wisdom comes in. We need to go to God’s word and see where He wants the male to lead, and if our actions aren’t going against God’s commands for the men, then like Esther, we should move. 🙂

  14. Ashley Worsham says:

    Hello, my name is Ashley. I was blessed in reading this. I am a mother now and did not grow up in church, but God was so good to draw me to Him. I have a daughter now and I pray to be a strong, loving Godly influence in her life. I am so grateful for this, I am continually learning in my walk with God as are we all. Obedience and faith in Him are so important as is learning His word. God bless you for having the boldness to share this. I pray that young women reading this will have a tender heart and that they would receive it.

  15. Heather Ireland says:

    It takes a strong girl to love

  16. Laura Reyes says:

    My name is Laura! I was very blessed reading this! I needed this big time. Because lately I have been struggling with waking up earlier and earlier to give God more time. Although I talk to God thru out the day and listen to worship music, I know if I don’t spend time with God in the morning, the day escapes me and it just is not the same.

  17. keke says:

    Thank you for reminding me about this! Sometimes I get so scared that I’m going to do bad things (turn away from God and becoming my culture) that I’ve gotten generalized anxiety disorder. Sometimes I want to give into the fears, but I know that God has blessings for those who wait on Him. Anyone know if there’s any way to help me overcome these anxieties?

    • Elizabeth Williams says:

      You’re right, evil and sin are all around us. And it seems no matter how long we’ve been a Christian, we still have to constantly be on guard for attack. I’m glad that you don’t want to be a part of what you see around you! However, you don’t have to fear or be anxious 🙂 Every day I’m tempted to do things or say things I shouldn’t. But I have to put on the armor of God and be strong in the Lord. Another thing is that I have to realize that I CAN’T do it on my own. I’ve been there too, where I felt like I had to do everything right and not make any mistakes. But here’s the thing. While, YES, we should be doing everything we can to please and honor Christ, we are inevitably going to fail sometimes. But that’s what grace and forgiveness are for. And you don’t ever have to worry about God not loving you or giving up on you. He isn’t like humans in that regard at all. Never trust in your own righteousness or good works, but in Christ’s love and grace. Another thing is to PRAY, PRAY, PRAY. I know it sounds basic, but it works! Those things you’re worrying or stressing about? Bring them to God!

  18. Lilian Pereira says:

    My name is Lilian, I am from Brazil and I found this blog because there is a brazilian website called “Mulheres Piedosas” (Godly Woman) that translated one of your articles and I loved it, because I am not surrounded by people that truly love God, but by a society that says everything is free and this society I am a weird because I am looking to the opposite direction and I am so happy that I found girls, even so far away, that desire to pursue Gods will.

    Thank you for spending your time helping girls like me!!! God Bless you!

  19. Latoya Brathwaite says:

    Okay.. non-Christian and feminist commenting, @GirlDefined:disqus
    . An old school mate posted this on her Facebook page, so I decided to click the link. The huge problem I have with this article is the idea that “being fed the messages day in and day out to believe in ourselves, to follow our feelings and to live for our own desires” makes a female a “wimpy woman”, or is somehow a negative instead of a positive. I could expand on that… but my view is that the development of self, of independent thought… are possibly the most important things in this world. Number 9 and Number 10 are extremely destructive to emotional strength and well-being. #9… you can’t “hold back” and “keep your mouth shut” and be emotionally strong. It’s a contradiction in my opinion. Girls should be taught to speak up, and not let a male point them in any direction… because she is not a child, a sheep… a young woman should always believe she is 100% equal to her partner, her brothers or anyone who is around her age. If she has the same education, she has no mental disabilities… then in reality, what makes her any less worthy of “leading”? A girl speaking her mind isn’t bossy as another comment said… it’s human. And it’s healthy. No one should be afraid as #10 states “of upsetting the apple cart”. This article to me is about sacrifice… and unnecessary sacrifice giving up integral parts of yourself as an individual, as a person, as a woman… it’s about restriction, restricting growth a “keep in your place and don’t venture outside of what you are told” type thing… the idea that unhappiness is a must and it is right, because it is for a greater purpose. It seems pretty psychologically damaging to me. Just adding another perspective.

    • Rosalie says:

      Hello! 🙂 🙂
      Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts! 🙂 🙂
      I just wanted to point out briefly that God’s view (not necessarily every Christian’s view, unfortunately) is that men and women are equal. In previous posts, GirlDefined as said this also, and so they aren’t coming from the perspective of men being better than women. Just as a man isn’t necessarily any better than a woman, a leader isn’t necessarily any better than the one (or those) who follow.

      There’s a young woman in my church who has been married for three(ish) years. She is VERY outspoken and outgoing, and her husband is very quiet and chill. As I’ve seen from years of friendship with this woman, she doesn’t have to give up her personality in order to let her husband lead. In fact, they compliment each other all the more because of it, and it shows how much she respects him to let him lead even if she has the more “typical leadership” personality. And just because the husband leads, doesn’t mean he doesn’t consult the wife’s opinion for practically everything (I’ve seen this in my parents’ marriage and many marriages) or that he considers his wife to be less than him – if he does, that’s pride which is sin.

      Also, at the core of Christianity is TOTAL reliance and surrender to God by both men and women. The Bible tells us to die to ourselves (give up ungodly desires). Our strength doesn’t come from ourselves but from God. Our desire to do things like lie, cheat, steal, or any other sin comes from our humanity; our humanity is actually one of our greatest enemies when it comes to living a godly life.

      You say this sounds like sacrifice and restriction. True love is sacrificial whether you’re loving your parents, your husband, your siblings, or God.

      On a side note, meekness is power under control.

      If you’ve made it this far, thanks so much for reading! 🙂 🙂 I can be very long-winded, hehe. 🙂 I just wanted to give you the Christian perspective and thank you for sharing yours. 🙂

      • Latoya Brathwaite says:

        Hello Rosalie, I appreciate your response, though my views/way of life are vastly different. It is quite interesting to read about your church friends, the outspoken woman and the quieter man. I can be very long-winded with my response too. 🙂

  20. Sam says:

    It takes a strong girl to speak up for what is right.

  21. Elizabeth says:

    It takes a strong girl to not go along with the crowd and to dare to be different. It also takes a strong girl to treat everyone with kindness, as well as being slow to anger and patient.

  22. Gabrielle says:

    Thanks so much for this post!!! It was great, and very much needed in today’s society!! Keep writing for God’s glory!

  23. Elaine says:

    It takes a strong girl to let go of her past.

  24. Victoria says:

    Yes. It takes a strong God to make a strong girl! Oh how I need my God’s strength to resist temptation to just give in!

  25. Olatanye Toyin Aluko says:

    It takes a strong girl to recognise her feeble nature and constantly seek to be sustained by God’s grace. It takes a strong woman to discover, focus on and actively pursue her divine purpose.

  26. Hope Madelane N. Tabing says:

    “it takes a strong girl to choose not to please people instead choose what pleases God”

  27. Janice NB says:

    It takes a strong girl to accept the sacrifice and let go of herself…

  28. Helena says:

    It takes a strong girl to obey her parents even when they are not watching.

  29. Korielle Smith says:

    It takes a strong girl to be honorable godly woman not to respond in anger or not say anything even others are trying to find faults in you that not truth.

  30. mary koppe says:

    I’m a strong woman who chooses also to honor God first

  31. hannah Mwilambwe says:

    It takes a strong girl to obey Gods leading even when it doesn’t seem to make sense to anyone.

  32. Katy Walton says:

    It takes a strong girl to choose to be weak before God.

  33. Moriah S. says:

    Moriah S. It takes a strong girl to be willing to surrender every detail of her life to Jesus–including her love story–with unshakable trust in His sovereign will.

  34. Meghan says:

    Meghan. It takes a strong girl to listen to the Lord even when people are saying different. It takes a strong girl to not be fearful and worrisome.

  35. Nikole says:

    Nikole. It takes a strong girl to endure

  36. thehappygirl says:

    Love this post! I desire to reject the world’s wimpy ways and be a strong woman for God!

    It takes a strong girl to do what’s right even when no one else is around.

  37. Emily says:

    I desire to reject wimpy womanhood and embrace true strength in Christ Alone! My name is Emily and I believe it takes a strong girl to look to God before everything that is trying to blind her and actually perform God’s will.

  38. Emily says:

    it takes a strong girl to…block out the lies and exchange them with the Truth! we believe were depressed, fearful, ugly, fat, angry, etc., when in reality, God knows the TRUTH about ourselves, and our hearts! He gives us a spirit of love, strength, peace, humility, etc. I am ready to start believing what God wants me to, instead of what the world wants.

  39. Kellie says:

    It takes a strong girl to run towards what scares her.

  40. Kate says:

    It takes a strong girl to live out her faith and convictions around unbeliever friends and family and be bold in standing for Christ

  41. Naomi says:

    It takes a strong girl to live with eternity in mind instead of just focusing on the now.
    It takes a strong girl to remember that freedom comes not from doing what we want but doing what we ought.
    It takes a strong girl to be salt and light in a bland and dark world.
    It takes a strong girl to live like God designed her to live.
    It takes a strong girl to let God write her love story, even if it seems like he’s not doing a very good job. But of course he is – Jesus is the best love story ever!

  42. Claudia says:

    It takes a strong girl to reject every negative prophecy and remarks people say about her.

  43. Haley says:

    Haley. 🙂
    It takes a strong girl to follow His will, and not her own–even when it’s super uncomfortable!
    “Your will be done”

  44. Miriam Lagomarsino says:

    It takes a strong girl to admit her problems and ask for help

  45. Ruth says:

    It takes a strong Girl to fight against the lies she believes

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