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It Takes a Tough Girl to Say These Words

By: Bethany Beal

I remember three very distinct times in my life that I had to be a tough girl. Once at age seventeen, twenty and twenty-four.

When I was seventeen I’d been offered multiple full basketball scholarships to division one universities. Basketball was my passion and I loved playing. When I wasn’t playing basketball I was either talking about it, thinking about it or dreaming about it.

In my junior year of high school the university basketball coaches needed an answer from me and I had to give them my final decision. After many hours of prayer and long discussions with my parents, the answer was crystal clear.

I didn’t accept any of the scholarships and that ended my basketball career at the close of my senior year. It took every ounce of toughness in me to be willing to say “I give up my plans and desires and I surrender to Your will for my life.”

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A few years later my older sister Kristen and I started thinking about attending Bible School. After much prayer and discussions with our parents, we applied and were accepted. All seemed to be moving along smoothly until a few months before the start of the school year. God started working in each of our hearts and eventually made it clear that Bible School was not what He wanted us to do.

Kristen and I, both, had to say those incredibly hard words, “I give up my plans and desires and I surrender to Your will for my life.”

Even Tougher

Although, the first two times of surrendering my plans to God’s will were hard, this next time would be even harder.

I was in a relationship with a young man and I didn’t want to surrender it to God. It took many nights of tears and crying out to God for me to finally say those difficult words, “I give up my plans and desires and I surrender to Your will for my life.”

Looking back I realize it takes a tough girl to say those words. 

It takes a tough girl to give up her plans and desires and follow God no matter the cost. No matter how difficult or painful, a tough girl is always willing to trust and follow God. A tough girl is willing to give something up if God asks her to. A tough girl, through the strength of the Holy Spirit, daily surrenders her life to God.

I hate to admit this, but, my “wimpy girl” list is a whole lot longer than my “tough girl” list.

I’ve been a wimpy girl so many times in the past. I’ve given into my feelings, held onto my plans with a clenched fist, ignored God’s obvious direction in my life and just cared more about myself than others.

Wimpy Girl

Why is being a “wimpy girl” so much easier than being a “tough girl?” Because being a wimp is easy. Being a wimp doesn’t take guts or gumption. It doesn’t take sacrifice and it’s all about immediate satisfaction.

Tough Girl

Being a tough girl is really hard. It takes strength. It takes determination and a commitment to follow God no matter the cost. Being tough isn’t for the self focused, short sited, immediate-pleasure-seeking type of girl.

Which type of girl are you? 

Is there a situation, circumstance, person or thing that God is asking you to give up? Are you facing something that is going to require you to be tough and say, “I give up my plans and desires and I surrender to Your will for my life?”

It may be a person, relationship, job, school, guy, friend, church, pet, plans, desire or something completely different. Whatever it is, you have to make a choice. Will you be a wimpy girl and hold on to your plans? Or, will you surrender your plans and desires and follow God’s will no matter the cost?

One of the toughest girls I’ve ever read about penned these words in her journal:

“Lord, I give up all my own plans and purposes. All my own desires and hopes and accept Thy will for my life. I give myself, my life, my all utterly to Thee to be Thine forever. Fill me and seal me with Thy Holy Spirit. Use me as Thou wilt, send me where Thou wilt and work out Thy whole will in my life at any cost now and forever.” -Betty Scott Stam

It wasn’t long after Betty wrote these words she was beheaded for her faith as a missionary to China.

Can you imagine praying those words in the midst of your difficult situation and actually meaning them? It takes a really tough girl to do that. Wimpy girls can’t handle that level of self-sacrifice and obedience to God.

I want to challenge you to write down that prayer and make it true for you. Tape it to your bathroom mirror, in your car, bedroom wall, phone, journal or wherever you will see it. Pray it on a daily basis and make these tough words characterize your life.

Will you join me? 

  • Will you pray this prayer over your current struggle right now?
  • Will give up your plans and purposes and surrender to God’s will?
  • Are you willing to allow God to work out His whole will in your life at any cost?
  • Who is willing to say these tough words with me?

I’d love to hear your thoughts! Please feel free to start a conversation and comment below.

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15 Responses to It Takes a Tough Girl to Say These Words

  1. Lydia says:

    Amen.., great thought

  2. Julie says:

    Great post. Thanks so much!! <3

  3. Elizabeth Williams says:

    I used to think when I was little that the right choice would be the easy one. Boy, was I wrong! A lot of people would think that turning down the scholarship and declining the acceptance into Christian college are the easy, cowardly things to do. However, that is one of the hardest things to do, giving up YOUR will like that for Someone else! The east thing to do in life is to do what WE want to do, what WE think is right, what is convenient for US.

    • GirlDefined says:

      @disqus_5YpbXzg7FS:disqus Thanks so much for chiming in and sharing your thoughts. “However, that is one of the hardest things to do, giving up YOUR will like that for Someone else!” That statement is so true! Giving up our plans for God’s will is extremely hard to do and takes a lot of strength. We as Christians need to be tough and follow God no matter the cost! #ToughGirls

  4. Gods_girlcoco says:

    God is soooo funny sometimes. Right before I read this article, I had been praying about a job offer I received. I had been feeling like God was leading me in another direction, but I was not willing ( and still not willing) to let it go. This was a perfect blog for me.

  5. Cassie says:

    How was it clear that god was telling you to sacrifice these things? What signs did you have?

    • GirlDefined says:

      Hey Cassie, In each of the situations there were some key factors that helped me understand God’s will. Here are a few of the things that helped me:

      1. I prayed and asked God to reveal His will to me no matter how difficult or hard it would be.

      2. I spent a lot of time in God’s Word praying through the Psalms and meditating on passages like: Proverbs 3:5-6, Psalm 40:8, Psalm 143:10

      3. I talked to my parents and willingly asked for their advice.

      4. I talked to other wise adults and accepted their input.

      5. I held each situation with an open hand and continually gave each situation/person back to God.

      If you can sincerely do each of the things above, you will be on a great track to understanding God’s will for your specific situation.

      The Bible says, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths” (Proverbs 3:5-6)

      I hope that helps!

  6. Melea says:

    wow…great post! 🙂 Thanks so much for being such an encouragement!

  7. Allie says:

    JUST what I needed to hear today! Thank you! I need to make a touch decision and God is calling me into more quiet time with Him. It’s a great opportunity to know His will and His heart more. SO thankful that we have a God Who fills and refreshes us and shares with His will. <3

  8. Joana Mae Pongasi says:

    I want to be a TOUGH GIRL and lift up all my decisions for the Lord..

  9. Lauralee says:

    This prayer hangs on my wall. It has been a prayer I repeatedly pray and pray that I mean. God give us the strength to be courageous and strong in our trust! Isaiah 30:15…In repentance and rest is your salvation; in quietness and trust is your strength. This verse and that prayer by Betty Scott Stan have been monumental in my life. Thank you for sharing this challenge and encouragement!

  10. Anna Joy says:

    This was just what I needed to hear today. I had just been thinking about my future, the things I wanted to do, and what God’s will might be in these things when I opened my Bible. The first words I read were from Psalm 25:12 “Who is the man who fears the Lord? He will instruct him in the way he should choose.” If that wasn’t enough I opened this blog post just after that. Thank you for sharing. God has used this blog to encourage me so many times at just the right moment.

  11. Ana Elisabet says:

    Wow!!! such a blessing!! thank you for sharing your experience and that prayer!!! That prayer really hit me!!!
    Reading the coments, I realice that Im not the only one that has received an specifical help with this post!! God is great!!
    I am struggling because there is a boy I like for about three years now, but his father (a pastor) has serious spiritual problems, because he wants to lead other believers as if he were a dictator, without even a little of respect or common kindness. His father doesn’t treat well my father (my father is a pastor) because of little doctrinal diferences. He prejudges my father all the time (because my father is not a college graduated preacher, aaltough my father is a scholar that studies the scriptures and that has the gift of preaching well)and doesn’t want to listen to what my father has to say. For me it is a very difficult situation, because I can see how my father never speaks to him in a bad manner, and I noticed that each time our families have been gathered this person brings this issues in wich we do not agree on purpouse and with a very bad attitude.
    His boy is a nice guy, but it is obvious that he is receiving the bad influence of his father. Please pray for me, that I can stop thinking of his son, because I know that this differences (that are minor, in his father eyes are great, and it would cause severe problems)
    Please pray for me, that I can know what is the will of God in this matter, and that I will be willing to accept it. Is there any advice you can give to me??
    God bless you!!

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