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The Greatest Calling of a Modern Christian Girl

By: Bethany Beal

I was in my early twenties and nannying part time. It was a school day, which meant waiting at the bus stop to pick up kids.

As  I was heading towards the bus stop, I noticed a young woman waiting at the bus stop as well. I didn’t recognize her and figured she must be new.

Being the extroverted and outgoing girl that I am, I quickly introduced myself.

Sara shared with me that she had just arrived in Texas, coming from Europe, and would be nannying directly across the street from me.

Knowing that Sara was new to town (and had zero friends) I decided to reach out to her and build a friendship with her. Sara and I hit things off pretty quickly. I introduced her to my family, and she became a regular guest in our house.

As time went on, it became pretty obvious that Sara was not into Jesus or any sort of religion. 

Sara did not believe in Jesus as her personal Savior.

The months ticked away and I slowly began incorporating more and more spiritual conversations into our coffee dates and hangouts. I eventually shared my testimony with Sara and shared why Jesus was so important to me.

Sara was very interested in what I had to say but didn’t seem to understand her own need for Jesus.

Time was ticking.

Sara would only be in America for one year. I needed to be straight up with her. I needed to explain to her why she (just like myself) desperately needed Jesus.  I needed to show her what the Bible said about sin. I needed to show her that Jesus loved her so much. I needed to explain that Jesus died to save her from an eternity separated from Him.

I was nervous. How was I going to bring up that conversation?

The day arrived, and the Holy Spirit gave me the strength to share with Sara. I brought the kids across the street to her house and made sure they were entertained and distracted.

Sara and I made some coffee and then I told her I had a gift for her to remember me by.

She opened up the gift—a Bible with her name printed on the front. 

This was her very first Bible. She was ecstatic.  

She loved having her very own “book” in English. I had her open up the Bible and then took her to John 3:16. I had her read the verse and insert her name wherever it said “the world.”

It went like this, “For God so loved Sara that He gave His one and only Son, that if Sara believes in Him Sara will not perish but Sara will have everlasting life.”

Although Sara didn’t accept Jesus right then, she took the Bible and promised to read the passages I marked. Sara went back to Europe with her Bible in hand and a new understanding of her need for Jesus.

Sara just recently messaged me and told me, “I’m still reading the Bible you gave me.” Although I can’t spend time with her (because we’re oceans apart), I can still pray for her and encourage her through text and messaging.

I wish I could say that I’ve been faithful to share the gospel regularly, but I haven’t.

I’ve let my pride and nerves get in the way and totally ignored the promptings of the Holy Spirit. I’ve been scared of what the other person might think of me. I’ve been nervous I wouldn’t explain it right. I’ve been more concerned about looking good in the person’s eyes rather than in God’s.

If you’re anything like myself, I’m guessing this topic intimidates you as well.

Bringing up the topic of Jesus isn’t the first thing out of your mouth. You get nervous. You get scared. You just don’t prioritize the importance of sharing the gospel. It’s hard. It’s awkward and you’d rather talk about something more pleasant.

I get it. I’ve been there. 

Despite each of our insecurities and lack of motivation to talk about Jesus with others, I want to challenge each one of us to be more intentional.

Sharing the gospel truly is our greatest calling as modern girls.

When you meet that new girl at school or at work, what will you do with the opportunity? Will you build a friendship and lovingly bring up spiritual topics? Will you care more about her eternal destination than looking cool in her eyes? Will you love her enough to share the best news in the entire world with her? Will you boldly and lovingly explain her current sinful condition and help her see her need for a Savior?

I love this quote by Ravi Zacharias:

Outside of the cross of Jesus Christ, there is no hope in this world. That cross and resurrection at the core of the Gospel are the only hope for humanity. Wherever you go, ask God for wisdom on how to get that Gospel in, even in the toughest situations of life.

I want to challenge you to have a bigger vision for the people you come in contact with.

Are you willing to love your friends enough to do these three things?

  1. Bring up spiritual conversations.
  2. Pray for an opportunity to share the gospel.
  3. Share the gospel with your unsaved acquaintances/friends.

Let me know if you’re brave enough to accept the challenge and do these three things.

Leave a comment below if you would like to join me in having a bigger and better vision for your life as a modern Christian girl.


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35 Responses to The Greatest Calling of a Modern Christian Girl

  1. Susannah says:

    Thanks so much for this post. It’s vital to be reminded of our mission and goal as we live for Jesus on earth.

  2. Mais says:

    Hi Bethany, I find your post very timely in my life. I’ve recently been convicted about not being open about my faith with the people I’m around all the time. I’m a strong believer, but never mention my faith unless I know I’m around other believers. (this was never an issue when I lived in TX!) I know I need to change, but I’m in grad school with a group that is just about as passionate as I am about all the opposite things I am in life (sometimes I don’t know what I’m doing here!). They hate Jesus, Christians, and violently oppose every view I stand for….while I just remain silent and pray for them in the background. At this point, they don’t know what I truly believe. I’ve rationalized that I don’t have the opportunity to be frank about my faith with them because their hearts are so (obviously!!) closed off, but I do pray for them regularly. While I may be right, I also know that my fear plays a part and this is wrong. How can you share the message of Jesus when you’re surrounded by extremely (and I mean extremely) hostile people? God has moved my heart to caring about these people, but I have no idea what the next step should be. I would love to hear from you! Thanks!

    • SedaJane says:

      Hi Mais, I hope you don’t mind me sharing my 2 cents. I live in a very liberal university community and have many LGBT friends. Frequently I hear them denigrating Christians. Typically, I just say, “I’m a Christian,” and usually this brings a short awkward silence and then we move on. However, it can open opportunities for conversation.

      Please keep in mind that many of these people have been deeply damaged by Christians over the last 30 years or so of conservative Christian activism. Many of them – probably most of them – have LGBT friends, neighbors, or family members, who are deeply loved. They’ve witnessed Christian pastors preaching that these loved ones are abominations who should be discriminated against, rejected, and even killed (I saw at least two videos of pastors preaching that the Orlando nightclub murders were good things). The resistance to same-sex marriage was very vocal and visible. Anti-transgender bathroom bills such as those passed in North Carolina and proposed in Texas cause great harm to trans people while doing nothing to protect non-trans people. So it may not be that they hate Jesus, so much as they fear Jesus – the Jesus who has been presented to them threatens their safety or the safety of loved ones, or discriminates against them. Bethany once shared a video testimony by Rosario Butterfield that was really good – if you can track that down, I recommend it.

      Remember this: it is not your job to convict or convince. That is Jesus’ job. Yours is to bear witness to the Good News, nothing more. This is done most effectively by simply loving God with all your heart, and with all your strength, and with all your mind; and loving your neighbor as yourself. That’s it. The Bible says that a good name is better than silver and gold. There is so much corruption and division in our society today. Live a life as perfect as you can, holding yourself to the standard of honesty, integrity, and compassion that the Bible teaches. You don’t need to preach from the Bible – in fact, please don’t. Preach from your life. When someone’s heart is open, and they see your life and your conviction, they may ask you to share – that is your opportunity. If they never do, that’s fine. Brush the dust from your feet and move on. You share the message of Jesus when you love others unconditionally. All you need to do is, when the situation arises, say, “I’m a Christian,” and then shut up – unless they ask you about it. It’s enough. I’ll leave you with one verse that helps guide me every day – Micah 6:8.

      • Mais says:

        Thanks, SedaJane, I’m really grateful for your input. I went from a very conservative home and university to just about the opposite arena for a grad school program….and now I’m really challenged to live what I believe in the midst of the world. This is what God ultimately calls us to do anyway, but it’s easy to do when all your friends are Christians, too. At first, I wanted to run away and hide until I remember that God brought me here for a reason. He calls us to be strong and courageous no matter where we are! I’ll remember your advice, and thank you for the words of encouragement. It’s good to know Christians are still loving God and shining His light while sticking to their convictions in some of the hardest, darkest places. Thank you so much. 🙂

        • SedaJane says:

          You’re welcome. Also, remember this: the same God that was there at home is just as much where you are now – Ps. 139:7-12. The people you are with are just as much God’s children as you and the people at home are. I encourage you to befriend them, knowing that the challenge then is to continue to live by your convictions in the midst of them. Jesus lived and dined in the midst of publicans and prostitutes and sinners, he befriended them, yet he did not sin as they did. It is His job to judge them; it is ours to love them.

      • Shanae B says:

        I love how you speak out of both sides of your mouth. You talk about honesty yet you brag about doing a copout by just saying you’re a Christian. When you say that in that way you’re not just shutting them up, you’re shutting them off to God. They shut up because they don’t want to continue a conversation with you. That’s how they shut you up. Yes a massive ton of people go about sharing Christ in a very negative way, which does no good. I also think it’s horrible that some pastors said that about the Orlando nightclub. However that isn’t what Bethany is talking about in this post. As she said in this post, she waited for a good time and way to have the conversation with Sara. It wasn’t the first thing she talked with her about. She also just basically gave sara a bible without convicting or trying to convince her of what to do. Yes we need to have times of letting God bring opportunities for such conversations! But maybe you need to reevaluate how well you are representing Christ through how you speak, act, and etc.

        • SedaJane says:

          First – this: “…she waited for a good time and way to have the conversation with Sara. … She also just basically gave [S]ara a [B]ible without convicting or trying to convince her of what to do.” Yes, exactly – and that is what I was, obviously imperfectly, trying to express. I was responding to Mais, not to Bethany.

          Claiming I’m a Christian is not a copout. It is a way of stating my own conviction without attempting to preach. It would be far more dishonest to hide my convictions and listen to disparagement of Christ and Christians in silence, as if I condoned it. (BTW, it is not my intention to shut people up – that is just the usual effect of my statement.) By stating my conviction, I let my friend or acquaintance know that about me, and I know that from that time on, I will be judged according to that statement, and I will be held accountable to it. If I’m hypocritical, that will be called out – that is what will shut people off from God, that and personal preaching or shoving the Romans Road at someone, not my simple statement of belief. As a transgender Christian, I know what I’m talking about. I have a friend who has been so damaged by her former church that she says, “If anyone mentions the Bible to you, run away from them – don’t walk. Just get away.” I have another friend, the son of a pastor, who sincerely believes that God hates him because he’s transgender. How would preach to them? How would you explain the “love of God that passes all understanding”? I state my belief and allow my life to attest to my conviction. You say I speak out both sides of my mouth? Ps. 139:23-24.

          • Shanae B says:

            You wouldn’t have made your response to me and have made your corrections to your previous comment if I didn’t call you out with some (even a small) level of truth in what I wrote. Mais didn’t specify any people group like you felt compelled to do. She was just being open and honest, and responded to your comment very well and gracefully!

          • SedaJane says:

            “You wouldn’t have made your response to me and have made your corrections to your previous comment if I hadn’t called you out…”

            That’s probably true, which is why I expressed my gratitude to you for making your first comment.

            “Mais didn’t specify any people group like you felt so compelled to do.”

            Do you mean LGBT people and their families and allies? I inferred from this (based on my own life experience): “They hate Jesus, Christians, and violently oppose every view I stand for.” Perhaps I was wrong.

            “She was just being open and honest, and responded to your comment very well and gracefully!”

            Agreed! 🙂

            “…with some (even a small) level of truth in what I wrote.”

            You are free to judge me as harshly as you’d like. I’m not perfect, not even close. I’ve made many mistakes, and no doubt will make many more. I will reiterate: Ps. 19:14. If my error of omission was a sin, I will account for it on judgment day. If you are referring to something else, it would help me if you would be more specific.

          • Delaney says:

            Hey SedaJane! I just want you to know you are supported by me, my friend. One of my best friends isn’t a believer, but she grew up in the church and went to private Christian schools her entire life. I, on the other hand, became a believer when I started college (which is where I met her), so I was learning about God and everything I knew had already been ingrained into her mind since she was a young child. She is also at the very top of our graduating class, so not only does she know a lot about Christianity, she’s just very smart in general. Her mom forced Christianity upon her, sometimes hatefully, therefore she has developed her own views on God that made her turn her back on Him. Our conversations about God are little to none, because how do you share the Gospel with someone who already knows what it is, but doesn’t believe it? She recently hit some low points in life, but is starting to crawl her way back from them and is now dating a Christian boy, which I truly believe will be what brings her back (if it’s God’s will). I don’t think I had much to do with it, except that I’ve been fervently praying for her since the day we met. I think letting people know that you’re a Christian without trying to force conversation will at least give them room to think about it. If you try to force conversation upon people who don’t want to talk about it, it’ll only turn them off the topic more and reinforce in their minds the stereotype that Christians are close-minded. Sometimes, when the Gospel isn’t wanted, the best way we can enforce Christ into our environments is to love people as well as we know how. Instead of reminding them of any pain the church may have caused them, we should show them the side of God that teaches us to be the best lovers of people we can possibly be.

            Then, when the time comes to share the Gospel, it becomes that much more beautiful. 🙂

          • SedaJane says:

            Thanks, Delaney. God bless!

          • Shanae B says:

            How are you not being judgmental? How can your comments not come across as you saying that only LGBT people have issues with God and Christians. Many people throughout history and currently have issues, including many Christians (over doctrinal issues). It’s like you’re taking something (mais comment) and turning it into an inadvertent selfish attack. It’s like you’re saying that people who do have a relationship with God need to keep it completely on the down low and mind their own business. When a person becomes a Christian they are about God’s business. God might be leading Mais to one day down the road to speak to the particular people she mentioned before about Him. Why do you get to dictate what she does or doesn’t do in that?

          • SedaJane says:

            How am I being judgmental? How am I saying *only* LGBT people have issues with Christians when I just say that many of them and their families and friends do? Are you saying that because I don’t list: atheists, wiccans, Methodists, Mormons, etc., etc., therefore I’m saying they don’t exist, or that none of them have issues with Christians? I don’t buy that; not listing everyone doesn’t deny anyone, it just doesn’t list them. Who am I attacking? How am I dictating anything to anyone? Mais asked for advice and I spoke out of my own experience and beliefs, and Mais seems to think it was helpful. I certainly hope it was helpful to her. I also referenced several times Bible verses and testimony that I found helpful. How is that offensive or selfish? Like you are, she is free to reject it or use it to any degree she finds useful. You are free to disagree and offer our own thoughts. Of course Christians disagree on doctrinal matters. Of course people from all walks of life disagree on all kinds of stuff. But I believe that people from all walks of life can find common ground. And I believe that you and I can find common ground, too. We already did. I agree 100% with what you said about Mais’ comment to me. If your initial criticism of me was because I didn’t mention sharing a Bible in my original comment, I agree with that, too. I don’t know if you’re interested in finding any common ground with me at all, but if you are, I’d enjoy hearing about it.

          • Shanae B says:

            You say you want common ground, yet you’re not indicating such. Mais did ask advice with spicific names, mine nor yours were listed. The disagreements that everyone has are only going to get worse as we get more into the last days. Tossing verses around like you have such a great biblical understanding. Taking and literally compartmentalizing everything I say to get back at me. Grasping at straws. I’m sorry I put you in the position to validate what I said, and letting this comment tread go way far beyond what it ever should have…

          • Delaney says:

            You seem to be looking for a reason to argue with her, Shanae. She gave her advice based on what she’s experienced, that’s all. Part of her experience was not giving a bible like the author did. Advice can come from what we’ve felt we’ve done right and what we’ve felt we’ve done wrong. As Christian women, and as Christians in general, it’s useless for us to attack one another. I commend SedaJane for responding so eloquently to your comments because frankly, I wouldn’t be able to do the same. We should commend one another for being able to recite Scripture instead of tearing each other down for “tossing verses around.” If you can’t find common ground, it’s okay, because SedaJane is right — based on life experience, we won’t always agree. It’s okay to agree to disagree though, we serve the same God and that should be celebrated and met with love!

          • Shanae B says:

            She wasn’t eloquent, and I’m not the one wanting to argue. We’re not supposed to base things on feelings. All three of us are guilty of that to some degree. My mistake was pointing things out instead of letting God do so. Neither of you get it, and I don’t expect you to.

          • SedaJane says:

            You’re right, Shanae, I responded to Mais although she asked Bethany. For what it’s worth, though, a few months ago Bethany shared Rosario Butterfield’s testimony with me, and I found it very helpful and inspiring. In fact, it helped me correct my own path when I was falling to temptation. So perhaps my offering that can be seen as Bethany’s advice moving forward. After all, so far Bethany hasn’t responded to Mais’ question directly. I hope you have a happy Independence Day!

        • SedaJane says:

          BTW, I re-read my post and I think I may have seen an omission that led you to respond as you did, so I did an edit that hopefully makes it better. I didn’t enjoy the way you expressed yourself, but I’m grateful you said something which helped bring it to my attention!

  3. Schylie says:

    This post was so helpful. Thank you for being honest about your feelings and the obstacles you face when desiring to share the Gospel. I can relate to everything you said. I avoid talking about God to others because of fear of man, my reputation, loosing friends, looking awkward… Thank you for sharing your experiences and encouraging us.

  4. Soray Pepín says:

    Thanks God i read this today. i been wanting to share the gospel at work. only like three people out of twenty something at work are christians. i want to share the gospel and let people know that they need Jesus right now. I just don’t know how to start. I’m gonna keep praying so God can help me do it.

    • Hannah B says:

      I’ll be praying for you, too, that He gives you the wisdom and direction on how to tell people about God’s love. Good luck and God bless! ❤️

  5. Kerry says:

    Thank you for this. Also been trying to share with a friend so this helps a lot

  6. Beth says:

    This is a great post! We need to be as bold as lions and NOT afraid to share the gospel with others! But I believe that all we as Christian girls can do is show other girls the gospel and the Truth (Christ), the conviction comes all by God. We can’t make them repent and accept Salvation, only God can. I agree with all that you said though!

    • Brittany says:


      I thought it was me who had to ”sell the car”. (talk people into accepting Jesus) NO. We just tell the gospel and pray hey receive Jesus. Its relaxing. I wish I would have known this. it would of saved me lots of heartbreak. Live it and give it (teach). . .that’s all we gotta do!

  7. Hanna Gibson says:

    Yes I am ready to join you in this challenge and even share with family who does not know Jesus.

  8. Hannah B says:

    Just finished reading Girl Defined, and I loved it. It’s one of the best books I’ve ever read. After I finished reading it, I felt like I was being convicted about this. I was worried about what others thought, worried about not getting the words right when I speak to others about Jesus. This post was just what I needed and so timely in my life. I’m trusting God to help me share His love with others. Thank you and God bless! ❤️

  9. Lindsay says:

    How are we supposed to share the gospel ?!? I don’t even know how to and I’ve been a Christian my whole life ( I’m 23) There’s that saying “plant the seed”. However, I find I just dump a whole bucket of seeds on someone’s head and leave it at that haha. In need to learn how to do it with grace and kindness when I find I just get into arguments with people which I’m ashamed of.

  10. Cami says:

    Thank you so much for this post Bethany. I live in Québec where so many people were burned by the Catholic church. They have no clue what a Baptist church is. I was able to give out tracts at my work but nobody talked about them afterwards. Then, I was able to invite a girl to my church and she started saying how much she disliked Mass. Of course I told her that our services are not at all like Mass. I am afraid of what people will think of me sometimes. What suggestions would you have when trying to share the Gospel where people are SO biblically illiterate?

    Also, can everybody please join us in prayer as we know someone (his name is Jean-Louis) who is supposed to die tomorrow. The nurses will give him pills. This is TERRIBLE!Most importantly, this man is not saved. My brother and I will call him, or his girlfriend today. PLEASE PRAY!

    • DJR says:

      I do not know the circumstances of this man’s coming death. Perhaps he has made his peace with the end of his life and chooses to have it happen this way. Please do not call anyone and inject tension into his final hours. You have no right to do that. If he had wished to have your definition of salvation, he would have done it before now. Think of it this way. If you were dying and an atheist kept bothering you to renounce your religion, you would not take it well. Pray all you want but leave him alone.

      • Amaris Lancaster says:

        Imagine, you are driving down a long, loooonngg, road one day, it’s one of those dark, wet, extremely foggy days. Dark pine trees loom over the road, hedging you in. You can hardly see a thing. Soon you overtake a truck loaded with heavy logs, and continue driving. An hour passes since you last passed the truck, and you discover that the road is becoming steeper and steeper as you wind down a mountainside. The road, as well as being steep, is gushing with water and is super slippery. You decide you should slow down a bit, just until you can safely make it across the bridge that spans the deep chasm you know is at the bottom of the mountain. The combination of the thick fog, incessant rain, steep, slippery road is making you nervous and you can’t wait to get home. You lean forward in your seat, squinting through the fog, looking for the bridge you know is coming up. ‘Ah there’s the wooden frame of the bridge.’ You race down the remainder of the hill, and almost breathe a sigh of relief, but wait a sec something doesn’t seem right… And then you see it. The gaping hole beyond the jagged edges of the cliff. SCREEEEEEEECHHH! You slam the brakes to the floor, and wrench the wheel sideways. The car skids, out-of-control, on the wet road. Your stomach drops as the world spins around you and you realise, ‘I’m not going to make it.’ You close your eyes in your final moments as the car speeds towards death.

        But the drop doesn’t come. Crying, you open your eyes. Your shaking hands fumble for the door handle and you fall out the car. To shaken to stand, you remain collapsed in the mud for a few minutes before regaining enough composure to stand up and survey the damage. Your car rests about seven meters from the road, and two feet away from the chasms edge. The thick boggy mud that your car was now stuck in, was in fact the very same thing that saved you. As the car spiralled off the road it had become entrapped in the mud, stopping the car seconds before it crashed off the cliff. You sit down beneath a tree and contemplate your miraculous escape. Your brain then switches to more practical things, you search for you phone before realising that you had left it back at work. “Argh! What to do now?!” you grumble in frustration. You suppose you’ll have to wait for help to come along. As you think on that, a second wave of horror washes over you.
        The truck.
        Any minute now that heavy truck is going to come racing down that mountain and it’s not going to be able to stop in time. The driver is going to plunge 55 meters to his death If you don’t warn him somehow. But how are you supposed to grab his attention in time? That’s when you remember the super powerful torch you had the back of you car (birthday present from dad). It had a red cap you could put on it to make it shine with a red light, If you flashed the torch on and off it could surely get the drivers attention. You calculate that if you start walking up the road now, you we be able to reach a point where the truck driver can safely pull over before the destroyed bridge.
        Now here’s your options;

        OPTION A: Grab the torch and try your utmost best to warn the truck driver of the danger.
        OPTION B: Sit back and hope that he will see the danger on his own. After all he should know what he’s doing.

        I’m sure you can see where I’ve gone with this. As christians it would be irresponsible and uncaring to the highest degree to just sit back and watch as someone heads towards imminent danger. If we truly believe what we speak there should be a sense of urgency and genuine concern for people to get saved. On the other hand, atheists like to believe there is nothing after death. Nothing = no sense of urgency, and no reason to ‘bother’ a christian to renounce their faith. Can you see the difference between the two scenarios you presented?

  11. Dani M says:

    As an introvert, this is terrifying for me to think of. I have a huge burden on my heart for the girls I work with, especially some whose pain is tangible, but I don’t know how to carry on a normal conversation, much less share the gospel with them. It really scares me to think of it, and is a super hard daily struggle, one that I’ve had for a very long time.

    • Kayla Marie says:

      I know what you mean. God has given me a heart to really reach out to other girls, but it scares me sometimes! It usually takes me a while to warm up to certain people. I just pray that God will help me reach out to people the way He wants me to.

  12. Sophie Clemens says:

    Hi Bethany! Thank you for your post. I have a question. I have a best friend. She and I are best friends for several years now. She does not believe in Jesus. Not a bit. I think you can call her an atheist. She does not want to talk with me about this topic. Sometimes, she is interested in my opinion about something related to Jesus, but if she hears my opinion, she gets angry, because she does not understand what it means to believe in Jesus. I find it really difficult to bring her to God. Nowadays, I do not really talk with my best friend about Jesus, because I do not want to upset her (that is not the right way to explain the gospel to her, I think). Could you help me, please? I do not know what to do, but I want to bring her to Jesus. Thank you in advance! Love your blog and your videos, Kristen and Bethany 🙂

  13. Lauren Krug says:

    of course i read this right after the 7 things a strong, brave, courageous (sorry if i butchered the title) does post! The Lord is so good. I love how He works. Thank you for the challenge and encouragement!!

  14. Wow…motivating post!! I’ve got 2-3 people I’ve recently gotten to know through my new job, whom I’m pretty sure don’t know the Lord. I need to be praying for strength and frequent opportunities to share the gospel with them…we’re only here for such a short time!

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