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Top 5 Most Popular Posts from 2018

By: Kristen Clark and Bethany Beal

This past year has been one of the most exciting years the two of us have ever experienced at Girl Defined.

The testimonies that we heard in person, online, and through email were absolutely incredible. Some of you grew in your relationship with Christ. Some of you accepted Christ as your personal Savior for the very first time. Some of you found freedom from habitual sin. Some of you found the courage to pour into other young women.

The list could go on.

God is working mightily amongst the Girl Defined Sisterhood and we are thrilled to be a part of that work.

This past year we launched our brand new book, Love Defined: Embracing God’s Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships. We wrote a new book Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl’s Heart: Discovering the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality (set to release April 30, 2019).

We also published 104 new blog posts and 52 new video posts.

That’s a lot of content…and we’re guessing you probably didn’t catch every single one. Since you probably don’t have time to “catch up” on the archives (although that’s not a bad idea), We thought we’d ring in the New Year by bringing you the very BEST posts from 2018.

You can also catch some of our popular YouTube videos here.

These are the top 5 most popular blog posts of 2018.

If you haven’t read them, we HIGHLY recommend it. There’s no better way to start your year off right than filling your mind with truth.

Drumroll, please……

5. Kristen’s Love Story with Zack (part 1 & 2)

It was a warm Texas afternoon in May of 2006 when I laid eyes on Zack Clark for the very first time. I still remember the exact moment I noticed him. I was attending a Christian conference with my family and He was sitting several rows in front of us. I’ll be honest, his strong and tall physique, sandy blonde hair, and tan skin were the first things that caught my eye.

But after meeting him the next day, I could tell there was something special about this guy. As I watched him interact with the people around us, he seemed very genuine, kind, and a natural leader. I was definitely intrigued.

After several days, we all parted ways at the conference. READ PART 1 (READ PART 2)

4. Why I’m Still Saving My First Kiss for My Future Husband

The moment I announced my relationship with David the questions started flooding my inbox. Specifically questions about our physical boundaries.

Will we hold hands? Do use a chaperone? Do we hug? Do we do stuff alone? What about being alone at night? In a house? Etc etc.

I totally get it. I would be asking the exact same questions.

In fact, I’ve asked other newly dating or courting couples those very same questions. I want to know what a healthy, God-honoring, Christ-centered relationship is supposed to look like. I want to know if there is a correct way to go about physical boundaries. READ POST

3. 136 Questions to Ask in a Relationship

I can’t even begin to count how many of you have asked me for this list of questions. Ever since I announced that Dav (my fiance) and I worked through this list of questions during our dating relationship, hundreds of you have asked me for this list.

If you’re in a relationship, I would encourage you to use this list as a resource to help you get to know your boyfriend/fiance better. If you want to be in a relationship, I encourage you to use this list as a tool to help you think through each one of the answers.

This is a long list, but it does not include everything you need to know or ask. READ POST 

2. Same-Sex Attraction and the Christian Girl

She experienced same-sex attraction for the first time when she was five years old. These feelings were a part of her life as long as she could remember. As she grew into a teenager the feelings only intensified. By age seventeen, she pursued her first female relationship and openly embraced her life as a lesbian.

Then, at age nineteen something radical happened in her life. She was introduced to a man named Jesus. She had never known a love so powerful before. She had never experienced a love so intimate and satisfying. Over the next few years, Jesus transformed her life from the inside out.

This is the true story of a woman named Jackie Hill Perry READ POST

1. Am I Nervous About the Wedding Night?

I’m a 30-year-old virgin who’s getting married in less than a month. It makes sense why so many of you keep asking me if I’m nervous about the wedding night.

Honestly, this is a pretty personal question.

You are asking me if I’m nervous about having sex with my brand new husband for the very first time. Although it’s personal, I want to answer it. I want you to know what I’m thinking and how I’m feeling.

Here goes. READ POST

And there you have it!

Those are the top 5 most popular posts from 2018. The two of us highly recommend taking the time to read each one as you launch into the new year. God is SO good and we can’t wait to see what He is going to do in YOUR life this coming year!

If you’re looking for additional ways to be challenged as a Christian girl this year, I encourage you to read our books:

Girl Defined: God’s Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity, and Identity

Love Defined: Embracing God’s Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships

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5 Responses to Top 5 Most Popular Posts from 2018

  1. Shanae B says:

    Loved reading all of these posts! Glad they made the top five!!!

  2. Xtofer says:

    I grew up in a staunchly Christian church, thought I loved the lord, etc, and once I figured out who I was in my late teens and early 20’s, I realized I hadn’t been able to live my life to its fullest because I grew up as a closeted gay man that felt shame. I felt it from every direction – I was bullied, pushed in the mud at school, rammed into a wall, called “girl” countless times. It took me the entire decade of my 20’s to become the fully realized openly gay man I am today and because of that, I have actually felt more love and strength from my family and friends around me. My relationship with my parents has grown stronger than ever before. And I found the love of my life, a man that I intend to spend the rest of my life with.

    Your site isn’t for me – I get that – I’m a guy. And I’m gay. But there’s something so disheartening, so unfortunate, that you both wouldn’t ever understand the abuse that people like you do to people like me. To write an article about someone, young and confused about their sexuality and to proclaim that they’re changed because of the love of God? No. She’s lying to herself if she is a lesbian. In this day and age where people feel so shamed that they take their own lives, you both should be ashamed of yourselves for sharing such disrespectful propaganda and twisting and turning scripture to fit your narrative. That isn’t “Godly” – that is deceptive.

    I’m nearly 40 now and I feel bad for all the people that will consume your ignorance and call it “inspirational”.

    And the worst part about all this is you won’t ever understand the harm you’re causing. You’ll read this and roll your eyes or turn your blinders on, maybe even delete my comment – things that Jesus wouldn’t do, and you’ll live in your blissful ignorance.

    • Shadow says:

      Hey dude, I’m really happy for you to share your story. I’m 17 and pansexual and I’m really concerned for all these people on here who look up to these women, these people who hate yet use religion as an excuse to judge which the bible says one is not to do. There is a wake of young girls who may be questioning their sexuality that are taught to repress it just because of blogs like this, there are people who will be taught that to be confidant in their body and wear a tank top is immoral and if a guy is distracted, that is solely the girls fault. A women is expected to have a baby they never wanted because to have an abortion is “baby murder.” Feminism is apparently anti-bible to these women and I’m in awe that these people don’t understand how much people are affected by what they say….

  3. Kat says:

    Hi! I’m thinking of maybe doing art college where most of them make you take a live figure drawing class.
    If you didn’t know, a life figure drawing class is where a model who is nude poses for you to draw them and learn human anatomy so when you are drawing humans and doing their body, it doesn’t look strange. I understand doctors study the human body, but I was just wondering since y’all talk about modesty so much what you think of this? Can you take a live drawing class as a Christian?

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