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Top 5 Most Popular Posts from 2019

By: Kristen Clark and Bethany Beal

This past year has been filled with excitement at GirlDefined Ministries.

The testimonies that we heard were absolutely incredible. The growth many of you made in your relationship with God was amazing. Some of you even accepted Christ as your personal Savior for the very first time. Some of you found freedom from habitual sin. Some of you found the courage to find a mentor and/or mentor a younger woman yourself. 

The list could go on.

God is working mightily amongst the Girl Defined Sisterhood.  

This past year we launched our brand new book, Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl’s Heart.

We also published 104 new blog posts and over 60+ new video posts.

That’s a lot of content…and we’re guessing you probably didn’t catch every single one. Since you probably don’t have time to “catch up” on the archives (although that’s not a bad idea), We thought we’d ring in the New Year by bringing you the very BEST posts from 2019.

You can also catch some of our popular YouTube videos here.

These are the top 5 most popular blog posts of 2019.

If you haven’t read them, we HIGHLY recommend it. There’s no better way to start your year off right than filling your mind with truth.

Drumroll, please……

5. Purity is so Much More than a List of Rules

I was that girl. The girl who grew up in church saved sex for marriage, wrote letters to her future husband, and tried to do all of the “right” things a good church girl should do.

In fact, I even saved my first kiss for marriage.

Check. Check. Check. I was marking off the boxes that a pure girl should check off. I was following the rules and being “pure.”

Looking back on my 30 years of life, I see a stark contrast in the way that I used to view the concept of purity to the way that I view it right now. READ MORE

4. What Every Married Woman Needs to Know About Sex

When it comes to addressing the topic of sexual intimacy and sexual desire, most of the posts we write on this blog are geared toward single women. This is because the central focus of our blog is to equip single women to gain a biblical understanding in all areas of life.

However, we also get a lot of emails from married women who follow GirlDefined, so we thought a post written directly to our married sisters would be helpful too.

I (Kristen) have been married for almost 8 years now to my husband, Zack.

One of the areas of sweet blessing and sanctification that we have both experienced within marriage is in the area of sexual intimacy. Prior to marriage, sex was something I waited for and anticipated with every fiber of my being.

And it was worth the waiting too! READ POST

3. Lessons I Learned From My First Year of Marriage

The day went by in a blur. I tried my absolute best to enjoy every moment and soak up the day, but it went by so fast. Everything started and ended in what felt like such a short amount of time (thankfully the wedding was live-streamed so that I can go back and relive the ceremony anytime I want).


Looking back at photos from October 14, 2018, I so wish I could go back in time and relive each one of the moments.

I loved my wedding day. I loved getting married to David Beal. I loved our ceremony.


2. Modesty Hacks and Fashion Tips with Hello Modesty

Big tears streamed down my face. I just knew I was destined to a life of drabby, old-fashioned clothing. I was sixteen, and my parents and I were having another modesty conversation.

I wanted to be fashionable, but I felt like my parents were dooming me to a life of turtlenecks and bonnets.

They did their best to explain that modesty didn’t have to look old-fashioned.

They encouraged me to have fun and explore styles but not to compromise on my modesty standards.


1. Was Being a Virgin on my Wedding Night Awkward?

I was a thirty-year-old virgin on my wedding night.

That isn’t a shock to any of you who’ve followed my story. In fact, many of you sent me emails and DM’s before I got married asking me if I was nervous about the wedding night. I responded to your questions through a blog post titled: Am I Nervous About the Wedding Night?

Today I want to answer the dozens of e-mails and DM’s I’ve received since getting married. It seems like most of you want to know if being a virgin on my wedding night was awkward.

Was I excited or terrified about the wedding night??

Here goes. READ POST

And there you have it!

Those are the top 5 most popular posts from 2019. The two of us highly recommend taking the time to read each one as you launch into the new year. God is SO good and we can’t wait to see what He is going to do in YOUR life this coming year!

If you’re looking for additional ways to be challenged as a Christian girl this year, I encourage you to read our books:

Girl Defined: God’s Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity, and Identity

Love Defined: Embracing God’s Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships

Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl’s Heart: Discovering the Beauty and Freedom of God Defined Sexuality 

Kristen Clark and Bethany Beal

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