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The Ultimate “Squad Goal” for Christian Girls (Free Giveaway)

By: Bethany Beal

I’ll never forget the days of walking across the basketball court gym, with my teammates by my side, thinking I was Miss Amazing.

This was my squad of girls and I was positive we were some of the coolest chicks on the planet. I liked my team, I liked my girls, I liked being a part of a  “squad.” I liked representing my team name and I liked having a group of people I could associate with.

Fast forward to today and “squads” and “squad goals” are all the rage.

I just recently saw a picture on social media of several famous celebrities and the title was captioned “squad goals.”

It seems having a cool group of girls to call your “squad” is totally back in style. Or maybe, it never went out and I’m just catching back up on what’s “in.”

I’m looking for a different type of squad.

Over the years, I’ve come to realize that my “squad goals” look very different than they did back in high school.

  • My squad goals are now about finding girls that I can encourage and be encouraged by.
  • My squad goals are now about challenging others and being challenged to live to a higher standard.  
  • My squad goals now are about surrounding myself with strong girls who are willing to live out biblical femininity.
  • My squad goals now are about being with a group that represents a name bigger than ourselves.
  • My squad goals now are about teaming up and living for a greater purpose.

I’m all about being a part of a squad or “sisterhood”, as Kristen called it in a recent blog post, but only if that “squad” has a bigger purpose than drawing eyes to itself.

As you already know, we live in a culture that crams its idea of femininity down our throats. We look, we see, and we believe that the ultimate girl is one who has the money, guys, pretty looks and ultimate “squad” to match that lifestyle.

We slowly, but surely, start to believe that we are “Miss Amazing!” We believe in our hearts that life is about us and making our name great. Deep inside we want other people to look at our social media pics and think, “#goals.”

I’m here to invite you to a girl squad that has a completely different agenda.

This girl squad is about representing its Leader and making His name great. This girl squad is all about reflecting our King and pointing others to Him…Not us.

In our book, Girl Defined: God’s Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity, Kristen and I talk about the whole idea of being BRAVE girls who are willing to break free from culture’s version of femininity and embrace God’s incredible design for womanhood. We also talk about the power of a “sisterhood” and the importance of encouraging one another towards Christ and biblical femininity.

The entire purpose of our book is to teach you how you can best represent your King, Jesus Christ. As Christians, that really is our entire purpose…Making His Name Great.

“Therefore, we are ambassadors for Christ, God making His appeal through us. We implore you on behalf of Christ, be reconciled to God. For our sake He made Him to be sin Who knew no sin, so that in Him we might become the righteousness of God.” (2 Corinthians 5:20-21).

That’s what it’s about, girls. It’s about being Christ’s ambassadors and representing Him well in the way we live, talk, act and dress. It’s about representing the leader of our “squad” well. It’s about making Him the “goal” and living in a way that makes the gospel believable to those around us.

I want you to do some serious heart searching.

Is your ultimate goal in life to point others to your King, or to yourself?

Do “walk across the gym court” hoping all eyes are on you?

Do you desire to be like Jesus or are you chasing after the cultures ever changing version of success?

My prayer is that each and every one of you will join me in making Jesus’ name known. That we will live as if Jesus truly is the leader of our “squad.” That we would strive each and every day to represent our King and Leader well through our lives.


I would love to give away a copy of my brand new book, Girl Defined: God’s Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity.

Two simple ways to enter:

  1. Comment below sharing a practical takeaway from this post.
  2. Share this post on Instagram, Facebook or Twitter using the hashtag #GirlDefined

The winner will be announced Saturday evening.

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53 Responses to The Ultimate “Squad Goal” for Christian Girls (Free Giveaway)

  1. Jessica says:

    My practical take away is learning how to take the focus off of self and somehow, through my words, actions, and life, point everyone eyes to Christ instead of me. Thanks SO much for your blog!!!

  2. Omle Uche says:

    My practical takeaway is being intentional about living for Christ so that my life and friendships reflect Him. Thank you for this opportunity.

  3. Mikayla says:

    My practical takeaway from this post is that if I have my trust in my Savior Jesus Christ, my friendships will show that I am a Christian and am striving to live out my Christianity!

  4. Lillian French says:

    My practical takeaway is to focus on God more than myself and to let that change the way I live my life.
    This is the first time I’ve commented on your blog and I want to let you know what an encouragement it has been to me!

  5. Sarah Shaw says:

    The practical takeaway from this post is to encourage my “squad” of friends to make Christ’s name great rather than our own names great. Jesus is the leader of our lives and making His name great while spreading the Gospel is our ultimate goal.

  6. CountryGirlforHim says:

    ” As Christians, that really is our entire purpose…Making His Name Great.”
    This statement is so simple, but so powerful!

  7. Tashia Nicole says:

    Beautifully written, Bethany! I love your new “squad goals.” I want to do my best at having those goals as well. Over all, this post was very encouraging and I’d love to win your book. 🙂

  8. Elizabeth Fry says:

    Fabulous post Bethany!! It’s so true, we become the ‘average’ of the 5 people we spend the most time with. Choosing wise, godly friends is more important than we realize.
    I still think you’re Miss Amazing ;). Thanks for your labors to get the Truth out to girls who need it so!

  9. Caitlyn says:

    My mission is to know God and make Him known. When I initially saw all of the #squadgoals it seemed cliquey and purely focused on showing people how amazing you and your friends are. I don’t think that’s a good way for a Christian girl to live. How is something that stems from a prideful heart pointing to Christ? Your post helped show me that you don’t have to conform to that. You can take this idea and transform it to be a light. You define your own squad. You can choose to glorify God, build up others (whether they’re in your close circle of friends or not), be kind, and cultivate a community of love. And maybe, in the process, you will inspire others and create new #squadgoals for someone. Ultimately though, we should choose to reflect Christ in our squads whether or not it ever makes an appearance on social media.

  10. Dana Williams says:

    It is so important to be the type of women who uplifts, encourages, and inspires others to completely live for Jesus, just by the way she lives her life. Friendship is so important, but its even better when we surround ourselves with women who are, not perfect, but who has a burning desire to not just claim the title of a “Christian” but to actually FOLLOW CHRIST. This means to be a Woman of the word not the world. To be set apart, different, unique, fearfully and wonderfully made. When we set our eyes on the things of God, and surround ourselves with likeminded people, we can come together and be unstoppable for the Lord. Not looking down on others or isolating ourselves, but living a life that is contagious. Having an aroma that smells just like Jesus, and that inspires women, young and old, to find their worth and FULL completion in CHRIST ALONE. Weive in this world, but we are not OF this world.

    You ladies are so inspiring. I thank God for bringing me to this blog! Continue to shine bright for Christ!

    Dana Williams (:

  11. Clara says:

    My practical take away is really important! Thankfully I have a great group of christian girls as my ‘squad’. This post really made me think about not trying to get attention. Point to the King! Thanks!

  12. Grace says:

    Over the last few weeks I have really been struggling with what my purpose is in Christ. I keep seeing my friends and family go off to college and follow their calling and I am still stuck at home after graduating from high school over two years ago. I have been feeling left behind because I don’t feel called to anything in particular. I kept forgetting or ignoring that my greatest purpose in Christ is to honor Him wherever I am, whatever I am doing. But I don’t like looking at life that way because it seems harder and more invasive to apply Him to the little details of life than to one particular area of life. Your post is just another reminder in my day that it is the everyday stuff that shows Him best. Please pray for me, that I will have the courage to seek Christ in the everyday things, and the faith in Christ to follow through on what He says.

    • christine says:

      I am currently in 11th grade and going to be graduating in 2017. I do not know what I am to do either. I don’t feel called to college (but if He would tell me I need to go, I will go, but I don’t feel that right now). I see a lot of my senior friends getting acceptance letters and posting the videos on Snapchat, twitter, etc.. and I can’t help but to think.. “what if I never get to experience that..”
      It can be hard. But you just have to really seek Him and know that whatever He calls you to do, no matter how small it may seem to you or the rest of the world, it is for a reason. It is for Him. You are not alone in what you are feeling and that is what I have struggled with.. feeling like everyone in the world is going to college and KNOWS what they want to do in life, but seeing your comment really helped me see that I am not the only one. Keep praying and seeking Him and stick strong to that! He is always there for you and will always be!

  13. Sophia Schwarz says:

    The biggest practical takeaway I got from this post was in I think the first question you asked. I’m trying to figure what I want to do after highschool and if there is a degree I would like to pursue. This reminded me that when considering that I need to understand why, and make sure I’m doing it to point others to Christ and not for self gain. Thank you!

  14. Christian Country Girl says:

    Thank you so much! I’ve really been trying to follow what God wants for my life. I know that in order to “attract” other Christian girls, I must first make sure I’m living for Christ. The standards I set for others need to be the standards I set for myself as well. Probably the 1 main thing I took away from this post is to stay humble, even when I do hard things for Christ. If I want to be surrounded by loving, Christian girls, I must be one first. 🙂

  15. Hannah R says:

    A practical takeaway for me would be to consistently look at my actions and think about if what I’m doing is to bring glory to myself, or my Creator. Is what I’m doing to draw attention to me, or God? And in glorifying Him, am I doing it for HIS purposes or my own gain? I want to ask myself these questions daily ^_^

  16. Adina says:

    My practical takeway is to make sure my life and friendships reflect Jesus so that others will see Christ through us.

  17. Allie says:

    I love how the Lord changes our heart, perspective, and attitudes as we follow Him with devotion. Two verses that the Lord has been teaching me about this subject are Galatians 1:10 and Philippians 2:3. He is so gracious has He points us to His truth! Thanks for helping to shine a light on His mercies.

  18. Melea says:

    I absolutely loved this post!!! Thank you so much for this 🙂 I do have a group of friends that I’m super close to that I think of as my “squad”, and we’re all Christians, so it’s beautiful to be able to seek the Lord together 🙂 I do struggle with wanting people to look at me and my friends, or even my Pinterest, and think #goals, lol…so thank you for pointing that out, and pointing me towards Jesus! 🙂 Love you guys!

  19. Anna R says:

    Thanks so much for posting this! I’ve been thinking recently about just how annoying it is when girls get that “squad” together that is really not God-honoring and they get their identity from something then that is not lasting and honestly will drag them down. It’s always so refreshing for me to fellowship with my sisters in Christ and we have that unbreakable bond and we build each other up in the Lord. There’s just nothing like it. My take away from this is just to stay more focused on God will and I love how you wrote about being ambassadors for Him. There are always going to be so many little things trying to pull us away from His will, that could be friends even, but surrounding ourselves with like-minded sisters can be a great defense against some of those temptations.

  20. Hannah Ewing says:

    Thank you for posting this!!! Your posts always inspire me to be more like Jesus. I think what I got out of this post was that our goal is not to draw attention to ourselves, but to draw attention to Jesus and what He has done for us!!!

  21. Anne says:

    Hi Bethany! I don’t really have a “squad” now, but I can use this post to help me know what qualities to look for in the future! 🙂 thanks, and so excite for the book!

  22. Rachel says:

    I didn’t really like the #squadgoals I’ve seen posted everywhere, but it wasn’t until now that I realized what an amazing thing it could be. Can you imagine a group of 3 or 4 girls that go around volunteering, helping people, and leading others to Christ? Not only would you have your girlfriends to have a wonderful time with while you’re at it, each one of you is realizing the other’s faults, gently admonishing, and polishing one another. Please pray that I will find a genuine, amazing squad of my own.

  23. Hannah G. says:

    I just pre-ordered the book (whoop, whoop!), so I’ll let someone else have a chance at the giveaway 🙂
    With that said, one practical application for my own life is being a good example so that others, especially the girls in my “squad” will look at me and see…. CHRIST!! And of course, that our primary goal is always to glorify God and redirect praise away from us and back to the One-Who-Is-Worthy-To-Be-Praised.
    To Him be the glory forever and ever!

  24. Olivia W. says:

    So, it wouldn’t count if I shared it with a group of girls on google plus? We’re a little bit outdated when it comes to social media…

  25. Hannah H says:

    The biggest thing that stuck out to me was that we need to point others to Jesus through our lives. I do sometimes struggle with wanting others to notice me. But we can always find victory in Christ. He deserves all the glory and praise!

  26. Maggie Fipps says:

    The best takeaway I got from this post is my selfishness. One big reason I want a “squad” is so I feel attention and belonging… I wish this isn’t the case…but our sinful hearts long for attention! Praying I can overcome this! Thanks for the post!

  27. Jazmín Ovalle says:

    This post encourages me not to give up on showing love, compassion and patience to my students. It`s easy sometimes to follow the squad of uncompassionate teachers, especially when students are disrespectful. Godly teachers are hard to find but I pray I can be one that squad. Thank you.

  28. Alyssa Grace says:

    Your blog highlights the benefits of sisterly fellowship that can be found in “girl squads.” Thank you for reminding me that Jesus is supposed to be the leader of my squad. My practical takeaway is to purpose to be the squad member who encourages my squad to honor God in all we do.

  29. Sarah says:

    Really appreciate you (and Kristin!) encouraging girls to honor the Lord in their DAILY walks of life! It can grow SO easy to lose sight of Christ in our crazy world. Thank you!!

  30. Hannah Wallace says:

    I love this post. I believe that biggest take away from this post was the definition of “squad goals.” Scrolling through social media this often pops up on people’s pictures, and the little green monster crawls in. It’s easy to become envious and wish you had a life and friend group like them. But if you want to live a life totally set apart for our Lord and Savior, you can’t be running with the crowd of this world. I am definitely going to be praying and searching that God will put a squad in my life, but one that is completely designed by Him and for Him.

  31. Kimoya says:

    I like this post. Recently about 6 months ago I moved from Jamaica to America. And I made up my mind when I came here that I would make better choice sing friends. I even prayed about it and I believe God answered my prayer because I have like only 2 close friends and their Christians also. I don’t have much friends but at least the the two that I have are good influence on me.

  32. christine says:

    This is such an encouraging post with such TRUE words, compared to what society and culture tries to surround us with. Loved this! I think some girls desire this in their heart (the deeper meaning of friendship and their “squad”) and have a longing for it, but sometimes… being surrounded by what culture tries to surround us with.. I think it’s sometimes hard to stand strong and stand for what you believe in your heart. And easy to… fall astray from what they once believed/felt. I have seen some girls in my life (and also me when I was a younger teenager!) have this concept at a young age but then they grow up and fall into this “squad goal” thing and lose sight of what they once felt from God about this. And it’s not their fault at all, they just need taught and to have someone stick it out with them and have blogs/people there for them to fell accepted. I think blog posts and resources like this help girls do that and help them to stand up and make them feel like they can do that.
    This blog post was just so encouraging and like.. a breath of fresh air. Love how girls are coming into their own and not just that.. but coming into their own with God and knowing their identity in Him and speaking it with courage! Continue to be strong and courageous and may God bless you, your ministry to women/everyone and this book!

  33. Sarah A. says:

    This post was such a great reminder for me that I need to be living my life to glorify Christ, not bring attention to myself. Kind of along the same lines as one of my favorite quotes, “Only one life, ’twill soon be past. Only what’s done for Christ will last.”

  34. Daughter of the one True King says:

    I love acting. But normally I’m more on the quite side in groups of people. So when I’m on stage sometimes I DO hope all eyes are on me. So everyone can see MY accomplishments. On stage I feel like people actually notice me. This post was an eye opener for me that this is not what I want. I DO want people to see right through and instead see Jesus IN me. I want everyone to see Christ not me. This is a squad I want to be a part of! #GirlDefined
    (P.S I would share this post but I don’t have access to any of the above sites so I’ll just use the # here.)

    • Grace O says:

      I love acting too! Just always remember not to do it to get attention but to do it to bring glory to God. (And of course to have FUN!) The theater guild I’m a part of prays before each show. It’s such a blessing to work with them. 🙂 I would definitely recommend praying before any show you do as well 🙂 It just always gives me this peace and helps me remember that I’m doing this for Him and not for me.

  35. Beth says:

    I tend to think so highly of myself that I get self conscience–extremely. I feel so awkward walking into a Walmart because I’ve made myself think that everyone is watching me. I need to realize that I am here to represent God, not myself. That what others think of me is irrelevant to my worth, because God created beauty and that beauty is all His. When I walk in a store, even on a good hair/makeup day, I can walk confidently not in my appearance and the desire to be considered special, but in that I am beautiful in Christ alone, and exist to point to Him. I don’t come into the picture as that critical piece, so the stress is gone. I’m free to love and serve Him.

  36. Reigha Sunshine says:

    This is fabulous!! My “Squad” is a diverse mix of happy God-loving girls, and I love it! I prayed for just one good friend for so long, and then God abundantly blessed me with a whole group of friends! I can pour my heart out to anyone of them and know that it will return to me full of love. 🙂 I want to be intentional about including other girls and reaching out to those who don’t have a strong “Sister Squad” yet. 🙂

  37. Abigail says:

    Thanks for the post! I was reminded that EVERYONE here on earth is a person just like me, and there is no reason that I should crave their praise….I should long for God’s praise. Looking forward to more great posts!

  38. Anna says:

    This phrase really stood out to me…
    Is your ultimate goal in life to point others to your King, or to yourself?
    And it definitely made me think. I do often times struggle with wanting people to notice me and praise me. And this reminded me that I need to work on that.
    Kristen and Bethany, thank you so much for writing this blog I really appreciate it. It has encouraged me in so many ways. ~Anna the Banana 😉

  39. Anonymous says:

    Whenever I think of the culture’s goals of success, I start fretting because I know I’m never going to live up to them. Sometimes I feel like this in school because I’m not living up to their definition of success. I’m not on any sports teams or clubs where I have a squad but in the last few months, I have seen that God is working in other people so that we can have a sisterhood together 🙂

  40. GirlDefined says:

    Congratulations @disqus_J7vUxvsEu3:disqus You are the winner of the giveaway! 🙂 Please e-mail us your info 🙂 Thanks so much to everyone who participated. We will have several more giveaways in the near future so check back regularly <3

  41. Belle says:

    Dear Girldefined I have already pre-ordered the Girldefined book on Amazon but I do not have a google account and do not know how to claim my freebies 🙁 Please help!

  42. Enfiniti Jones ⚓️ says:

    Will the girl defined book be available in Christian Bookstores or only online?

  43. Melomusika Diaries says:

    Thanks a bunch girldefined! It’s true that our ultimate goal is to point others to the King, and should be the ultimate squad goal! I further believe that I should choose to spend my life with Christian ladies with such a goal that it may abound with things eternal and only for the Lord.

  44. Kaela Schultz says:

    I LOVE your blogs!!!

  45. SuperDollyBaba says:

    I ordered the book and i’m so excited for what GOD’s will going to teach me. Thank you in advance Ms. Kristen Clark and Bethany Baird for being a channel of blessings.
    -so love from Philippines!

  46. SuperDollyBaba says:

    I ordered the book and i’m so excited for what GOD’s will going to teach me. Thank you in advance Ms. Kristen Clark and Bethany Baird for being a channel of blessings.
    -so lolove from Philippines!

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