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Why Christian Girls Post Seductive Selfies

By: Kristen Clark and Bethany Baird


In a culture that equates beauty with seduction, it can be confusing to understand the difference.

Often times we, as modern Christian women, find ourselves buying into cultures version of beauty and mimic what’s upheld to us in the movies and magazines.

Instead of copying what we see in Hollywood, we need to rethink why we do what we do.

When it comes to the pictures we take and the selfies we post, we need to take a step back and reevaluate our heart’s motives.


Bethany and Kristen

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    I read the article about your selfies, and I don’t personally think they’re seductive at all. I wouldn’t feel bad about them. I think you’re being hard on yourselves.

    Maybe you’re talking about the intent of wanting a lot of male attention? I’m two ways about this. On the one hand, it’s difficult to feel seen when other women are sexually open to things and competitive and are promoting their image all over the internet. I could see where you’d want a couple of pictures of yourself for people to see. On the other hand, there is something to be said about having integrity by not going viral, and that you questioned the pictures says something about your character.

    There is actually a big problem with normal women using pictures on the internet to basically sell their soul. Some women will perform degrading sex-acts to grow their blog following or go on trips. Many women reading this could become famous on Instagram with a nice camera and some sexy outfits. Or start a YouTube channel with political commentary or rambling about nonsense. They’d have thousands of men interested. The fact that you’ve stayed within the boundaries of this sphere of influence, shows what’s in your heart and that you’re trying to do what’s right. You’re trying to focus on women, and aren’t necessarily looking for a reward of fame. The spirit or fruit of that other kind of ambition really hasn’t shown itself to be good.

    All this being said, I still haven’t come to a conclusion about showing-off, and whether it’s inherently right or wrong. Part of me wishes I would have done more of it when I was younger, to cast a wider net. That being said, I don’t know how to go from “guy pays attention to you on social media” to coffee to boyfriend. It may very well be a path to nowhere, like “dating” when you’re a virgin. You know what I’m talking about…

    I guess in a way, a single woman doing a website like this has some image promotion, but you also kind of deserve it. It serves a purpose to other Christian that you waited/ are waiting until marriage. If a guy saw something like this and thought you were cute and there was a little image promotion, that’s kind of your cut for being moral and doing good work. Good girls deserve men too, and should be rewarded for being good, not punished for it.

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      * “Serves a purpose to other Christian women”

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