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Why did God Create Marriage Anyways?

By: Kristen Clark

I have a beautiful hand-painted picture of a mountainous scene hanging in my house. Every time I look at this picture, I long for the fresh mountain air of Colorado (my second favorite state after Texas). This beautiful picture is a magnificent representation of the mountains I love. It reflects a beautiful scene. However, as much as I love this picture, it’s only a representation of the real thing.

God created marriage to work exactly the same way.

Marriage, as lovely as it is, is only a picture of something greater. It’s an earthly representation of something much grander. God placed the institution of marriage on the wall of this world as a representation of the gospel.

Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. (Eph. 5:31–32)

God’s greatest purpose for creating marriage is to show the world an earthly representation of what Christ’s covenant relationship looks like with His Church.

Christ is the groom and the Church is His bride. As Timothy Keller says in his book The Meaning of Marriage, “This is one of God’s great purposes in marriage: to picture the relationship between Christ and His redeemed people forever!”

As Ephesians 5 shows us, the husband’s role is to reflect a picture of Christ Himself and the wife’s role is to reflect a picture of the Church. Christ (our heavenly groom) came to this earth, pursued His bride (the Church), sacrificed His life for her, made a lasting covenant with her (a promise that cannot be broken), and gave her a new name (child of God). Just as Christ loved, pursued, and sacrificed for His bride, husbands are called to do the same for their brides.

In marriage, the man is called to love his wife selflessly. To lead her in wisdom. To sacrifice himself for her good. “For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church. . . . Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” (Eph. 5:23, 25).

On the flip side, the woman is called to respond to her husband’s leadership as the Church responds to Christ. The woman is called to faithfully respect her husband. To welcome his leadership in their home. To partner with him in the work of the kingdom. “Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. . . . Let the wife see that she respects her husband” (Eph. 5:24, 33).

Understanding marriage through a gospel lens is essential for us as Christian women. When a man and a woman live out their unique gender roles within the marriage covenant, they put the glory of the gospel on display as God intended. We show our lost and broken world a picture of Christ and His love for His bride (the Church) that would not be displayed otherwise.

As Christian women, our primary purpose for getting married should be to glorify God. “As Christians, we don’t believe that a happy marriage is the primary goal of life. Glorifying God is.” As women, we will glorify God most when we understand and live out His unique role for us as women/wives. We’ll unpack more of what our beautiful and unique role is in the next chapter.

Scripture also reveals some other amazing purposes for marriage.

• Companionship (see Gen. 2:18)

• Sexual intimacy (see Gen. 2:24)

• Having a Lifelong teammate (see Prov. 2:17)

• Producing children (see Gen. 1:28)

Marriage is a spectacular union created by God Himself. Desiring to get married for God’s glory is a wonderful and biblical desire. “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord” (Prov. 18:22).

Approaching marriage with a selfless heart and gospel lens is the key to building a beautiful, Christ-exalting relationship.

*This content was pulled from chapter 5 Love Defined (Getting to the Heart of Love, Marriage, and Sex). To learn more about God’s design for marriage, love, sex, purity, relationships, and singleness, grab a copy of Love Defined: Embracing God’s Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships. 


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24 Responses to Why did God Create Marriage Anyways?

  1. Liz Keely says:

    omg! Another AMAZING article!! Your blog really inspires to keep finding new ways to put God first in my life and my marriage. My wife and I are so excited to learn more about His word through GirlDefined! Unfortunately- we have heard that you ministry is not accepting homosexuality/LGBTQ, so I just wanted to confirm these rumors aren’t true! God is love and God is gay!

    • AlmaRoa says:

      Liz Keely, I think God men and women for a purpose, a glorious one. And He created marriage to be between a man and a woman. Of course He loves everyone (John 3:16) and died to save all of us (1 John 2:2,) but He clearly states that homosexuality is a sin He hates, as much as He hates lying, and once we put our trust in Christ, He makes us a new creature, and of course, we still struggle with sin, with lying, anger and homosexual tendencies, but He doesn´t wants us to be anymore, He cleanses us to be pure and Holy. I pray you are willing to seek the Lord with all your heart and the truth of His Word.

      “…nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God. Such were some of you; but you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and in the Spirit of our God. ” 1 Corinthians 6:10-11

      • Geritude says:

        I want you to reread that quote and ask yourself if homosexuality is a sin great enough to be listed along with wrongdoings such as fornication and thievery?…

        • AlmaRoa says:

          It is!!! Not because my human wisdom tells me it is, but because God says it is. Some sins are more scandalous than others but sin is sin. I could complain telling that people are judging me cuz I´m a liar, but I was born a liar and I´m helpless, why don´t they understand me? And the same applies to every sin. I´m not better than homosexuals just because my sin is more subtle than theirs. We were born sinners, I do believe that you can be born with homosexual tendencies, cuz is nature is sinful, we have the tendency of lying, being jealous, hating others, but the point is that God wants us to free us from each and every sin, that´s why He died for. And He wants to show us that He is the true fulfillment of all our desires. Please read Romans 6.

          It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery. Galatians 5:1

          And please consider these words are coming frome someone who in the past struggled with same-sex attraction.

    • Geritude says:

      I’m very sorry but neither the writer(s) of this blog or their ministry accepts the LGBTQ+ community. They have other articles dedicated to labeling same gender attraction as a mental disorder, criticizing Beauty and the Beast for its gay scene, and stating their negative views on the topic of a male being on the front of a CoverGirl magazine.

  2. Loved says:

    Liz Keely, Ummm funny…. no that would be going completely against Gods own word, and your first words are proof that you don’t obey his commands…. please be respectful because I’m sure you wouldn’t want your name being used as a curse word.

  3. Loved says:

    The only reason I’m not replying directly to your comment is because my phone won’t let me…

  4. Loved says:

    Also you might want to read the post again… because she quotes the bible saying ” A MAN shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife and the two shall become one” Not a trans shall be joined to a women/man and become one… the bible is very clear that marriage is for One MAN and One WOMAN!

    • Laura says:

      You just said “you wouldn’t want your name being used as a curse word,” then use the term “a trans” which is really dehumanizing. You can believe whatever you want, but I’m so bothered by this arrogant attitude from some GD readers/viewers. No one should be giving you a pat on the back for scoffing people like that when you are called to be compassionate.

  5. Loved says:

    Could I ask for y’all to consider something? I love GD and I just moved so far there aren’t any girls my age out here.. I was wondering if y’all could do a survey finding out where all your followers are in the world then doing some type of (I don’t know) page?/ anything where girls can connect in their home state and know their connecting with a fellow believer in Christ!?
    Just a thought.. we’ve found an awesome church but my whole age group is missing…

    • Ruth says:

      I like this idea. Maybe they will consider it. I know what you’re feeling. The church I chose as my new home church in Colorado is a great size, not far from me and teaches the truth (the pastor doesn’t beat around the bush). The only thing missing are people my own age. There are a few that come sometimes but I’ve been longing to meet other Christians more like me. I never had solid Christian friends growing up. I started on the path towards Christ in college but even then my path was more like a round-a-bout. I love the church I chose but it’s getting harder as I continue in my devotions and strive to be a better child of God. (Just letting you know, I feel ya!)

  6. Loved says:

    Thanks Ruth! ❤❤

  7. Courtney says:

    “Anyways” is not a real world. You might have known that if you had gotten an education 🙂

  8. Megan says:

    Liz Keely, you are wonderful. You have, unfortunately, been born into a close-minded world that refuses to accept anything that is different, but what makes us different makes us special. You are the strong one who has been able to understand the truth in life and love, and I hope that you continue to spread your love, hope, strength, courage, and kindness everywhere you go, and to all who need it.

  9. Loved says:

    Megan- I believe you have a huge mistake in your comment… “a close minded world” that’s beyond true! If we where close minded… things would either be disastrous depending if the democrats/unbelievers where the rules… or we would be worshipping the God of life and all! If the republicans/ Christians where ruling… also although I love Liz I hate the sin she’s commiting! And it’s not strength…

  10. Megan says:

    close-minded: adjective; having or showing rigid opinions or a narrow outlook.

  11. sparrow says:

    Dear Loved,
    I realise your more negative view on LGBTQ+, and I respect it completely. However, you should realise that loving your neighbour is one thing that the Bible emphasises on. Therefore, you should respect the views of Liz as well. One of your main goals as a Christian is to spread the news of the gospel. You are trying to bring more people into salvation. I have read your comment(s) in reply to Liz’s, and they are neither respectful nor encouraging. She has stated that she has a wife, and is eager to learn more about Jesus. Your response to her is pushing her away from Christianity, and that is not the open minded community that God wants us to have. While you recognise that what she has done is a sin, a more viable way of going about this conversation is instead to invite Liz to learn more about Christianity and God’s values, and do what Megan has done- aid her in repenting by acknowledging how strong and courageous she is.

  12. Loved says:

    Sparrow- I understand your comment… a little…
    I also re-read my comments, and although I can tell you with a clear conscious that when I said that, my words where being put down in a way of defending the fact that God is not gay and God does not like his name being blasphemed! But also in the most gentle way possible at the time, also I guess I’m just really used to people coming on here being sarcastic and rude trying to be mean.
    Also although I agree with the fact that we should love our neighbor I also believe that, that doesn’t give us a reason to let LGBTQ+ people go around thinking we are accepting their sin and allowing it! God is very clear and I’m going to be very clear!
    Like I said i love Liz but I HATE her sin and will not let anyone think that it’s something to play around with! Like Liz almost said it right, God is love BUT he’s also JUST!
    And I will repeat- the only strength, braveness,couragesness that will ever come from anybody is if they are speaking truth and Gods word! I don’t respect her sin at ALL!
    Just like I woundnt want you or anybody else to respect any sin I’m in!
    Liz – I love you because I know God made you beautiful and for a purpose and because I know he loves you! But just like him I hate the sin that has been committed in your life and mine as well! Please consider reading 1 Corinthians 6 and finding some of these men to listen to online! Voddie Baucham, Paul Washer, John Macarthur.
    Megan – Liz can’t share true love and encouragement until she’s repeated and turned away from her sin!

    (All said in a very loving gentle tone ; ) )

    • Geritude says:

      “All said in a very loving gentle tone.”
      I dunno that definitely came off as aggressive when I read it. You may want to consider actually writing in a gentle and loving tone before sharing your opinion on a sensitive topic, then maybe people would actually care about what you have to say.

  13. Loved says:

    Geritude – you look at all of girl defineds articles in disgust and disagreement, but have you truly actually read any of their articles or just the names?
    Geritude almost every comment you have on girl defined is trying to correct people being mean and bring sarcastic….
    Consider something for a moment please, do you truly believe that a just and loving God will allow his creation to completely disobey him and he not do anything about it?

  14. Loved says:

    Almaroa, can I ask what changed your mind?
    Also are you against what I’ve said?

  15. Loved says:

    Here is my final words… I love homesexuals to the point that I pray for them but I don’t accept their sin.
    The Lord tests the righteous, but his soul hates the wicked and the one who loves violence.
    Psalms 11:5
    God hates sinners, only repentive sinners will see God.

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