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Why it’s Good to Be Closed Minded Sometimes

By: Kristen Clark

We live in a culture that is all about open-mindedness. Whatever sounds good goes. Whatever Hollywood throws out there is quickly accepted. Whatever Nashville produces is quickly embraced.

The definition for being open-minded literally means: “willing to consider new ideas.”

That’s sounds pretty good, right? Who doesn’t want to “consider new ideas?” I mean, think of all the progress our country has made in 200 years due, in large part, to considering and adopting new ideas. A lot of good can come from being open-minded. I’m all for considering “new ideas.”

So here’s my question for you.

Is it ever okay to be close-minded about something?

Is it ever a good idea to be unwilling to consider new ideas?

Here at GirlDefined.com, we’ve been sharply rebuked and fiercely criticized by some of our commenters for being close-minded about certain issues. We’ve been told that being “closed-minded” is wrong and harmful to our readers.

We’ve had commenters lambast us for taking a stand in favor of saving sex for marriage. We’ve received emails accusing us of being closed-minded and hateful for taking a stand for heterosexual/Biblical marriage. We’ve been accused of being “out of date” and “shaming women” for promoting the idea of modest fashion.

Being “closed-minded” about anything has now become a cultural no-no.

So what do you think? As Christian women, is it wrong for us to be close-minded about these issues? Is it wrong for us to have firm beliefs, based on God’s Word, about these weighty topics?

Absolutely not.

We live in a culture that is embracing ideas of paganism and secularism faster that we can blink.

We live in a society that does not view God as the source for all truth, or His Word as the standard for how to live. Therefore, we cannot embrace every popular idea and opinion out there. We cannot be “willing to consider new ideas” about everything.

Just because Hollywood glamorizes sin, doesn’t make it right. Just because our government has legalized homosexual marriage, doesn’t mean we should jump on board. Just because the radical feminist movement has redefined the definition of womanhood, doesn’t mean we should embrace it.

Just because our culture is normalizing what’s wrong, doesn’t make it right.

As Christians women, our allegiance must be to God’s word first. We must measure everything we hear, see, and are taught against His timeless Truth. When “new” ideas and worldviews are put before us, we must look to God’s Word first, then discern whether God would be open to it or not.

Whether the culture likes it or not, there comes a time when we must be closed-minded. And you know what? This is a very good thing.

If we don’t, we will soak up every “wind of doctrine” and embrace ideas that are completely contrary to God’s Word.

Ephesians 4:14 warns us against this exact thing:

“…So that we may no longer be children, tossed to and fro by the waves and carried about by every wind of doctrine, by human cunning, by craftiness in deceitful schemes.”

This verse is challenging us to NOT be weak, mindless women, accepting every idea presented by pop culture. Instead, we must be strong, bold, and courageous women as we stand for, and proclaim God’s beautiful truth.

The second half of that verse tells us how to do just that.

“Rather, speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ” (Ephesians 4:15).

As we’re close-minded about false doctrine and ideas, we must – at the same time – speak the truth in love. God has saved us from our sins and we are no better than anybody else. We simply know God’s freeing truth and should strive to share it, in a loving manner, with the unsaved world around us.

I want to close by encouraging you, as a Christian girl in the 21st century, to stand strong on God’s Word.

Don’t allow the ideas of our culture to trump God’s timeless truth. Don’t be afraid of being close-minded about false teaching and unbiblical ideas. Don’t soak up and embrace every wind of doctrine.

May we be a generation of Christian girls known for their strong backbone and tender heart. 

Now I want to hear from you.

  • Have you ever been accused of being close-minded about something that you knew was Biblically sound? What happened?
  • In what ways do you feel pressured to be open-minded about things that are contrary to God’s Word?

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  • thehappygirl

    Amen!! It’s so refreshing to see young women taking a stand! Just recently, I had two homosexual clients. Their agent was talking about how cool they were, and how happy she was that homosexuality is being accepted in our culture. I nicely but firmly told her that I don’t support homosexuality. She immediately started saying how I needed to learn to accept them and things like that. I explained that while I love sinners, I could not stand for sin. It’s hard taking a stand sometimes and being the odd one. I was the only one that felt that way. Everyone else just went with it. But God never called us to fit in. He said we’re a peculiar people (1 Peter 2:9).

    I’d like to encourage you (Kristen) and Bethany to keep standing for what’s right, even though it’s so unpopular. You both are doing such wonderful work and have helped me and many others in more ways than you can imagine. And I’d like to add that everything here on Girl Defined is presented lovingly and with compassion. A holier than thou tone has never been taken, and you don’t down (or “shame” as some like to say) girls; you always let us know that help is available through our Lord and Saviour. Thanks for all you’ve done for us girls who love you!! Keep on standing for what’s right! I’m praying for you 🙂

    • Olivia Scott

      Couldn’t have said that better. 🙂

    • Elizabeth Williams

      Good for you for taking a stand! Keep shining for Christ!

    • Hey @disqus_hihTx5ZolR:disqus! Thanks for sharing your story and for being so encouraging to us! Keep standing for God’s truth, and loving the lost world around you! 🙂

  • Katharine Menning

    Thanks for not being afraid to be closed-minded and different from our culture! I am proud to be closed-minded about certain subjects and will stand by my beliefs with the Bible and what it says to back me up. As Romans 1:16 says, “I am not ashamed of the gospel, for it is the power of God that brings salvation to everyone who believes”.

  • Tanya

    God is the same as yesterday, today and forever. If He didn’t change that, why should we? We live to follow Jesus, not the culture or celebrities who present their new ideas.

  • Melissa VDA

    Thank you, girls, for standing strong for the truth!

  • Elizabeth Williams

    That must be tough to get emails and comments like that, especially when you pour your heart into a post! Thanks for continuing to speak truth!!

  • Kay

    AMEN!

  • vwlover

    Amen, amen, and amen!!! We have to stand up for the Truth. It can be hard sometimes and I know people think I’m weird/strange at times. We have to be more concerned about what our Father thinks. Just yesterday I was telling my coworkers that adultery was wrong. They were okay with a married mutual acquaintance having an affair. They felt that adults are going to do what they are going to do. What about telling him the truth?! I would have expected a non-Christian to have that attitude but not fellow believers.

  • Jasmine Luna

    I have been accused of being closed-minded many times, even by some fellow Christians. But let them accuse me! I want to be a strong girl who is firm on God’s truth!

    “And be not conformed to this world (and it’s open-mindedness), but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.” Romans 12: 2 (KJV)

  • Gods_girlcoco

    Its not about being closed minded or open minded. For me, its about making people feel comfortable about themselves. There are queer teens and adults everywhere who are killing themselves because they feel they won’t be accepted or loved because of who they are. If you view homosexuality as something learned, than yes it can be changed. But the problem is is that homosexuality is not something learned, but a true attraction that one is born with. I have seen first hand what it can do to a person to try to suppress and change their attraction. It does not help the person. Instead, people get hurt. A gay man marrying a woman just so he doesn’t get judged doesn’t help anyone. He just ends up hurting the woman and himself. Also, Hollywood is not glamorizing anything. They are just showing what America looks like and I am totally for that. It’s funny because back in the day people who believed interracial marriage was wrong used the Bible to support it. Just a thought.

    • Hey @God@courtneybaugh:disqus – Thanks for sharing! As Christ followers, the most LOVING thing we can do for others is to share the love and truth of Christ with them. There is nothing more powerful than the Word of God. The only way to find freedom from sin is through the power of Jesus Christ and His death on the cross. Regardless of how God’s truth might make someone “feel” it is the only way to find lasting freedom. Here on this blog, we strive to present God’s truth to women, regardless of how unpopular it is – because we know that His truth is the only source of power to change lives and bring eternal hope. 🙂

  • Yamico Tembo

    wow! indeed women in God we will stand up for the truth: i am a girl defined by Christ* 🙂

  • I used to be accused of being closed minded a lot, but not as much anymore. Ironically though, I am more closed minded now than I was. We shouldn’t change so that the world accepts us, but we should treat people with love and care no matter who they are. I know a lot of people who think that because they have standards, they can’t be a friend to those who don’t. I believe that as Christians we are to love people instead of judging them, because we are ALL sinners. And part of love is being honest. I try to speak the truth in love, but I won’t change my beliefs to fit in.

  • Jesusfreak17

    Just remember that being close-minded doesn’t mean closed-ears. Listening to people’s ideas is a way we can show respect and love them even if we end up rejecting their ideas.

    • Good insight @Jesusfreak17:disqus – I agree, we need to show respect to others in our conversations, and then graciously and lovingly point them to God’s beautiful truth.

  • First Amendment

    Closed-mindedness is an inability to change– an inability to break away from societal bounds. If you’re eating with tax collectors when everyone hates them, befriending prostitutes when everyone thinks they’re dirty, or curing sick people when everyone thinks they’re unclean, you’re open-minded. Like Jesus.

    I am a Christian, but what I find appalling about your blog is the political message it describes. Jesus did not come to Earth to tell us to vote Republican, and you can be an anti-gay Christian and a really crappy person. The world has progressed in unimaginable over thousands of years; it’s not immoral to take new ideas into consideration when practicing a religion. If you still believe open-mindedness is evil, let’s take a look at true evil.

    Mao, Stalin, Hitler. These are the top three dictators in world history, ranked in order of kill count (largest to smallest). Although the motivations and political ideologies of each proved unique (Mao and Stalin were communist leaders; Hitler was a fascist) all three share one commonality. Closed-mindedness. (If you want to get a taste of what closed-mindedness is, I suggest you read Mein Kampf.) If you want an American example, we also enslaved Africans because we thought it was acceptable to exploit humans as a cheap source of labor, we drove the Native Americans off their land and slaughtered them because they were uncivilized, restricted women’s ability to vote because we thought they were only created to make babies and sandwiches, and now we have presidential candidates telling us to build a wall to Mexico because all immigrants are rapists and to carpet-bomb ISIS because all Muslims are terrorists.

    To make sure we’re on the same page, this is how I’m defining closed-mindedness: “Not willing to consider different ideas or opinions.” If that seemed innocuous, I also took a peek at the most-used synonyms. The synonyms include the obvious candidates: inflexible, pigheaded, rigid, etc. And then I continued to scroll down the page, where I discovered that all of these words mean the same thing as closed-minded:
    bigoted
    blind
    discriminatory
    extreme
    hidebound
    illiberal
    intransigent
    leaning
    narrow
    narrow-minded
    one-sided
    racist
    sexist
    xenophobic

    Do those sound Christian to you?

    My message to you is simple. Christianity is not a political statement. You can’t use the Bible to tout your bizarre message that we should never change. Change is the very essence of life– as we mature, we naturally gain more insight; with that comes the ability to formulate new opinions. Open-mindedness is what Jesus is all about.

    • We appreciate your thoughts and opinions and welcome discussion on our blog. However, it seems very clear, based on many of your recent comments, that we do not share the same views on the authority of God’s Word and how to interpret it. This blog is based firmly on the truths of God’s timeless Word, and that is the position we write every post from. This is a Christian blog directed to Christian girls and women, therefore our posts are written to encourage and challenge those girls in their walk with God. 🙂 We welcome thoughts and opinions from others, but we may have to agree to disagree. Thanks for taking the time to share your opinion though!

  • Faith

    I heard in a message once that we shouldn’t be open-minded or close-minded… But being Christ minded is the true way to go. Cause that is what we were created for, to be like Christ! 🙂 just sharing a thought

    • Christy

      What a great way of looking at it! Being open-minded implies that anything and everything is justifiable and you have no concrete standard “anything goes”. However, at the same time, being close-minded can imply stubbornness, pride and being unteachable or distanced from correction. Being Christ-minded says that you test things against God’s standard, taking every thought captive for the obedience of Christ.

  • Choko Harris

    Thank you so much for this post, really, I needed this. I always feel so out of place with the pace of today’s standards. I find it hilarious, though; people who call others who, respectfully but firmly, stick to their guns bigots are just as closeminded! It’s not a one way street. If I say I want to save myself for my husband and another person doesn’t, it should end there. No forcing things, no insults, nothing. Just listening to one another and if we don’t agree, THAT IS OKAY. We will move on to another subject! But I cannot tell you how many times I have had conversations that go haywire all because I don’t agree with someone. They call me closeminded for not believing what they do, but I could just as easily tag them as closeminded as well. It’s insane! Everyone has the yearning to tear down others and insult people to prove they’re “right” even at the expense of relationships and potential friendships. I think that one of the Duck Dynasty men said it best when he said that, ‘”You don’t have to compromise convictions to be compassionate.” We can be civil. Anyone can do that. Instead of focusing on what divides us, I like to focus on what unites us…like food. Let’s go get some nummies:)

  • Rae

    Thank-you so much for not giving in to the “haters” and staying true to God’s Word, whether other people like it or not. Sometimes your posts are so brutally honest about what’s in God’s Word, it strikes me in the heart and gets me thinking. Thank-you so much!

  • Sarah

    I agree with Rae, your girls blog is based on the beautiful, unshakeable truth of God’s Word. It’s so refreshing and challenging to read, so thankyou! You both inspire me to live as a set-apart girl ♡

  • First Amendment

    “The heart of the discerning acquires knowledge,
    for the ears of the wise seek it out.”

    “Intelligent people are always ready to learn.
    Their ears are open for knowledge.”

    (Two interpretations of Proverbs 18:15 about open-mindedness.)

  • Anonymous

    Thanks for staying true to following God and inspiring me to do so! It’s not easy being a Christian and isn’t supposed to be, and no matter what culture or time period you live in, *actually* living out the principles of being a disciple of Jesus won’t be popular. And the way to eternal life is narrow; thank you for encouraging us to find it!

    “Enter through the narrow gate; for the gate is wide and the way is broad that leads to destruction, and there are many who enter through it. For the gate is small and the way is narrow that leads to life, and there are few who find it.” Matthew 7:13-14

  • I am so thankful for you girls and this blog! Keep it up 🙂

  • Lamia

    I agree with almost everything you just said. But what’s so wrong with feminist though? You can be feminist with a christian view too! Not trying to come off as like angry or anything lol. I’m actually kind of hurt in a way because it seems like you guys don’t like feminism from your numerous blog posts.I still love you guys though. Just wrote how I felt. <3

    • Christy

      Very thought provoking article. I agree with you too. I believe that the highest honor of a women is to be a homemaker, but when I hear other Christians being against feminism, it makes me wonder too. Feminism at its core is the belief that women should have equal rights and opportunities as men, which I believe. However, I continue to hear Christians talk about how feminists are demeaning men and shaming women who run a home instead of joining the workforce. I’ve never met any feminists that match this description, but it seems that a lot of Christians think these types of women are out there. I don’t read the news very much… are these assertions about feminists true? Additionally I’d like Christians/authors to expound when they take a stance against feminism.

      • First Amendment

        I am a feminist. I’ll answer your questions.
        Feminism is movement focused on the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes. Basically, feminists believe that women should be treated equally to men. Women should receive the same pay for the same work men do. Women should have the right to vote. Women should have freedom under the law. We should value women as equally as we value men.

        Christians do believe that women should be treated equally to men. Thus, they are, by definition, feminists. However, they feel that feminism strays from the Biblical role of women. Because feminism argues that women should receive equal pay for equal work, Christians think it diminishes the value of women not working (aka, being homemakers). Christians tend to think that feminists hate men, which they don’t. There is a difference between feminism and misandry (the belief that women are above men.)

        There are feminists who value breadwinning more than homemaking. That doesn’t mean feminism values breadwinning more than homemaking. Personally, I value these two responsibilities equally, though I don’t think the highest honor of a woman is to be a homemaker. That’s a choice every parent makes for himself or herself. Because I believe in gender equality, I think that women or men can raise children.

        I suggest you start to read the news. Reliable news sources include: BBC, The New York Times, The Atlantic, and The Wall Street Journal.

      • Hey Christy,

        Great questions! Trying to pin down a single definition for feminism is like trying to find a needle in a hay stack. Feminists themselves don’t agree on everything with each other, and in fact, there are dozens of “types” of feminist beliefs that contradict each other. I highly encourage you to read the following blog posts which were written to answer your exact questions. They explain why we (GirlDefined) are choosing to embrace equality between men and women, but why we’re rejecting feminism:

        Why Feminism and Christianity Can’t Mix
        http://www.girldefined.com/feminism-christianity-cant-mix

        Feminism is Laughing at Our God
        http://www.girldefined.com/feminism-laughing-god

        Also, for more info on feminism from a Biblical perspective, I HIGHLY recommend this article:

        What is Feminism
        http://www.ladiesagainstfeminism.com/what-is-feminism

        Hope that helps!!

        Kristen

        • Sara

          Did you know that all Christians don’t agree with each other on everything either? And that there are dozens of “types” of Christian beliefs that contradict each other? True story.

          • Rae

            That’s why there’s like, a thousand different denominations. (Please excuse the hyperbole. I know trolls love posts like this! LOL)

          • First Amendment

            Sara has a valid point. You’re not being funny, Rae. There is a problem when GirlDefined lumps all denominations of Christianity as one. I go to a church that marries homosexual couples, ordains women, and supports Planned Parenthood.

          • Rae

            I was merely adding to what she said.
            And, about my comment on trolls, you just proved me right.

  • Dolly

    When people say things like “you’re close-minded” or “you’re a prude” I actually take those things as compliments. The moment Satan stops trying to bring me down is the moment I gotta take a long around and figure out what I’m doing wrong.

    • Amaris Lancaster

      Yeah same 🙂


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